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Old 11-14-2014, 01:40 PM   #21
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Despite some other weird personality issues (nowadays, they'd probably diagnose him with a form of a rain-man syndrome) my brother has an amazing gift: He can recognize people he hasn't seen since kindergarten--55 years ago. Even if they have a beard, glasses and a hat, he'll go right up to them and say: "aren't you so-and-so?" and he is always, always right.
My ex-BF has this facial recognition gift (whereas I am borderline "face blind" ). We'd be at Lowe's and he'd spot a classmate from 1st grade at the end of the aisle. We also ran into his grade school art teacher somewhere. While river kayaking, we ran into someone to whom he'd sold his car a few years prior. I could go on and on. An absolutely amazing gift. I always thought he ought to work for the FBI or someplace where this skill would be a valuable asset.

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Old 11-14-2014, 01:43 PM   #22
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My ex-BF has this facial recognition gift (whereas I am borderline "face blind" ). We'd be at Lowe's and he'd spot a classmate from 1st grade at the end of the aisle. We also ran into his grade school art teacher somewhere. While river kayaking, we ran into someone to whom he'd sold his car a few years prior. I could go on and on. An absolutely amazing gift. I always thought he ought to work for the FBI or someplace where this skill would be a valuable asset.

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My ex-BF has this facial recognition gift (whereas I am borderline "face blind" ). We'd be at Lowe's and he'd spot a classmate from 1st grade at the end of the aisle. We also ran into his grade school art teacher somewhere. While river kayaking, we ran into someone to whom he'd sold his car a few years prior. I could go on and on. An absolutely amazing gift. I always thought he ought to work for the FBI or someplace where this skill would be a valuable asset.

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I have a friend like this. Years ago (decades ago) when I was 18 and in college I waited tables to earn money to pay for college. Years later when I was in my 50's, I hired someone into my department at work and we became friends. The first time I ever met her husband, he asked me "did you used to wait tables at Jerry's in Richmond"? Stunned, I nodded yes. He said, you waited on us (he and my friend were dating at the time). My friend says he is always like this - remembers everybody he ever had any contact with. Amazing.
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My neighbor was more than bi-polar. Once, he was hitting on 3 women in the neighborhood including DW. He accused me of having a sex slave (DW) and wrote a letter to DW on how he is going to save her from me. After the letter and a few stalking instances, we got our restraining order. Other stories were just as crazy - wielding sword and playing with neighborhood children (this land him in the jail, although detail on how was rather fuzzy).

Delusional. Sounds paranoid schizophrenic....Some deceased family member experience with that, myself.
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The next time I meet them, I will remember the name, but am unlikely to recognize the person unless there was something distinctive about their looks.
I'm the opposite - I can remember faces but not names. It gets embarrassing sometimes - "Oh, that's good 'ol what'shisname, I worked with him for 25 years. Nice guy."

A good friend is bi-polar, he's the airplane mechanic/flight instructor I've mentioned from time to time. He gets treatment, but doesn't like the drugs so rarely takes them. But he manages.
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My ex-BF has this facial recognition gift (whereas I am borderline "face blind" ). We'd be at Lowe's and he'd spot a classmate from 1st grade at the end of the aisle. We also ran into his grade school art teacher somewhere. While river kayaking, we ran into someone to whom he'd sold his car a few years prior. I could go on and on. An absolutely amazing gift. I always thought he ought to work for the FBI or someplace where this skill would be a valuable asset.

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I have this too. Sometimes I feel like other people just don't pay attention, which may not be accurate. A few days ago I saw a woman that I danced with one or two times about 6-7 years ago, she was a good dancer and I enjoyed the experience. We were shopping at Trader Joe and I knew immediately who she was and where she had crossed my path, but I don't like to feel rejected if I speak up and realize that the other has no clue that she has ever met me, let alone where or when.

Finally we were in the check out together and she said "I feel like I know you". I told her that I did know her, and where and when. She smiled and said, well, we've danced together so we have to hug, and held open her arms.

Nice day at TJ's.

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I have a friend like this. Years ago (decades ago) when I was 18 and in college I waited tables to earn money to pay for college. Years later when I was in my 50's, I hired someone into my department at work and we became friends. The first time I ever met her husband, he asked me "did you used to wait tables at Jerry's in Richmond"? Stunned, I nodded yes. He said, you waited on us (he and my friend were dating at the time). My friend says he is always like this - remembers everybody he ever had any contact with. Amazing.
DH has this ability. And he always remembers names, places, and general dates (but not like people who can recall every day of their lives). Pretty much a photographic memory--he did really well in school. Now it is a really helpful thing when watching a movie and I can't figure out what that actor has been in.

Unrelated, there is a cousin in his family who is charming and somewhat delusional--we were recently with him in a group of people he didn't know and he introduced himself individually to every person as having a different interesting career. Very difficult for me to spend much time with him. He actually has been successful in business but then crashes and burns, takes six months off, and gets hired by another company (at least that's what he tells us). I think his meds are skewed to treat depression, but bring out the delusions.

Re bosses with personality disorders--many people who post here have said they turned down or stepped down from management positions. The only people left who wanted those jobs must have been a little nuts!
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One of my best friends has been trying to get a divorce from her ex who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It has been a complete nightmare. Seems he got much worse since they separated.
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I can't remembers the faces nor names, relative to the norm. That's my disability. But I have a very selective memory. I can remember random mix of numbers and letters but can't remember my cell phone number. I can't remembers passwords and have to recycle same ones.
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One of my best friends has been trying to get a divorce from her ex who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It has been a complete nightmare. Seems he got much worse since they separated.
The best advice a doctor has on NPD is to stay away from them. Supposedly, it is the worst of PD and worst to treat. People with NPD don't believe they have one, and their loved ones have to drag them to see help.
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Bipolar can be treated with meds - but some folks with bipolar don't like the "flatness" - they love the manic phase, and don't want to get rid of it in order to eliminate the depressive phase.
So true- when they are 'up' they are on top of the world. OK for them but not pleasant for their family when the depression cycle begins...
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I am getting like you Walt on the names vs faces.

I had a female boss that displayed Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD). After being around her for a few years and watching her behavior, I came to the conclusion HPD is just another form of Sociopathic behavior. These people learn how to get the attention they crave by manipulation. It was easy to see how she made it into management.

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I had a female boss that displayed Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD). After being around her for a few years and watching her behavior, I came to the conclusion HPD is just another form of Sociopathic behavior. These people learn how to get the attention they crave by manipulation. It was easy to see how she made it into management.

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I am having hard time understanding what "nails" someone as having HPD. It seems the behaviors attributed to HPD are commonly found in many among us. What raises the flag to be labeled as HPD? Perhaps, I just haven't been around with many women.
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I am having hard time understanding what "nails" someone as having HPD. It seems the behaviors attributed to HPD are commonly found in many among us. What raises the flag to be labeled as HPD? Perhaps, I just haven't been around with many women.
It seems to me that labeling someone with a personality disorder is just a more powerful way to say that you don't like them.

If two people don't get along, is there some judge who can say which one has the personality disorder?

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It seems to me that labeling someone with a personality disorder is just a more powerful way to say that you don't like them.

If two people don't get along, is there some judge who can say which one has the personality disorder?

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It seems to me that labeling someone with a personality disorder is just a more powerful way to say that you don't like them.

If two people don't get along, is there some judge who can say which one has the personality disorder?

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With NPD, it's pretty clear one has it or not, often with devastating consequences with people around them. I suffered through it with several members of my family. With HPD, I just don't know. Based on wiki's description, it's hard to tell where to draw the line.
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I had the unfortunate experience of crossing paths with a psychopath in college. It was an awful experience. The only way to deal with a psychopath or narcissist is to go no contact; cut off all ties.
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Usually they get promoted into upper management. Or elected to high office.
I'm not to sure about the elections, but......

My last boss at megacorp was almost normal, I actually liked him before (and after) he got the job. I wanted to ask him how he got the job as he wasn't a total (moron, physco, idiot). Then one day, he told me about changes he was about to make in our dept. He lied. I retired.
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Robnplunder - so true on the NPD. He thinks everyone else is crazy and that he is the only normal one around.
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Borderline personality disorder. I can feel days of my life being removed when around the person and decided there was no offsetting positive reason to associate with them. Unfortunately there is still peripheral involvement.

+1 on the BPD entanglements. Can't wait for the holidays!
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