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Old 11-29-2012, 10:28 AM   #21
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Dunno. I'm still waiting to be wrong.
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:36 AM   #22
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:40 AM   #23
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Dunno. I'm still waiting to be wrong.
Reminds me of a Rush Limbaugh statement years ago, paraphrasing - 'I admitted I was wrong once a few years ago, but it turns out I was wrong about my admission...'
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:47 AM   #24
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I don't take positions on a subject unless I have studied it. So I usually won't change my mind unless new facts are brought to light. That sometimes happens. You should not hold onto a belief in the face of facts to the contrary.

I do like to hear others viewpoints though. Sometimes a person can be blind to a point of view due to less experience in that area.
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:53 AM   #26
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During my initial time in Saudi, when I was on single status, a co-worker and I were 'invited' to to the married quarters for dinner, and to play Trivial Pursuit, with the guy that we were both unfortunate enough to report to at the time..........throughout the entire painful evening we had to listen to his 'explanations' regarding why the answer(s) he gave were correct and those provided in the game were wrong. AAAAARRRRGH.
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During my initial time in Saudi, when I was on single status, a co-worker and I were 'invited' to to the married quarters for dinner, and to play Trivial Pursuit, with the guy that we were both unfortunate enough to report to at the time..........throughout the entire painful evening we had to listen to his 'explanations' regarding why the answer(s) he gave were correct and those provided in the game were wrong. AAAAARRRRGH.
'Oh! look at the time! Sorry but I've gotta go, thanks for a lovely evening. buh-bye, cya...
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'Oh! look at the time! Sorry but I've gotta go, thanks for a lovely evening. buh-bye, cya...
Thankfully I had the excuse that I went running at 5:00 a.m. and we all had to be at work for a 7:00 a.m. start.
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Hard to answer the poll. I mean there are so many varying degrees of right and wrong. How do we define truth and how do we know it? So many epistemological questions yet so few answers.
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I always thought that being able to simply admit that one is wrong, is part of growing up - - a sign of maturity.

Now, feeling GUILTY about being wrong is another matter. I do that very well, too, and I'm not even Catholic.

Generally I admit my error, and then I verbally thrash myself for making the mistake. ("I was wrong. HOW could I have possibly made such a stupid mistake? You'd think that after all these years I would know better." and so on).
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'Oh! look at the time! Sorry but I've gotta go, thanks for a lovely evening. buh-bye, cya...
I have found that there are several things that will make people be very glad to see you go...a casual comment of "I think I might have poison ivy, fleas or diarrhea".
Use 1 or all 3 depending on the strength of the verbal grip that person has on you.
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I find it troubling that there are so many people in this world who are unable to say "I made a mistake" or "I'm sorry". Not long ago, a (former) friend treated me in a terribly shabby and insulting manner. He knew that I was furious, although I didn't yell or scream at him. He compounded his awful behavior by refusing to even speak with me about it for a week. After a week, the best he could do was to say, "if I had it to do over again, I would do things differently", but he was unable to acknowledge that he made a mistake, nor could he get himself to say "I'm sorry".

This wasn't the first such incident, but it will be the last.
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This wasn't the first such incident, but it will be the last.
As in, you are "unfriending" him?
Perhaps he has a lot of the J trait in his personality. Are you sure you want to give up on him?
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It was hard to admit that I was wrong when I was a whippersnapper. But I have lost my appetite for arguing, especially from an untenable position. Admitting that I am wrong is easier.
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Hard to answer the poll. I mean there are so many varying degrees of right and wrong. How do we define truth and how do we know it?
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But, when I make an investment mistake, and there are plenty, it's easy to say that I was early. When the company goes bankrupt, then there is no sense in denying it, is there?
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Some interesting posts, thanks.

And the poll results I expected, so far 98% can admit they're wrong! Yeah, right - not even true here much less the population at large. I don't claim to know percentages, but it ain't 98%.

Just for fun anyway...
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You guys have put me to shame, so if it ever, EVER, turns out that I'm wrong about something, then you'll be (among the) first to know........presuming you're still alive at that late date, of course.
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I'm insistent, argumentative and stubborn - but I also have a pretty good batting average of being right. OTOH, if someone convinces me that I am wrong, I don't have any problems admitting that I was wrong and changing my position.
Hmmm...I think this is how DH would describe me.
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