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Yes, more often than not. 83 91.21%
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Old 11-29-2012, 01:55 PM   #41
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I believe the 4 most important words I've learned to use are, "I'm wrong, I'm sorry".

I have to use them fairly often.....and I train others on them at my church. I'm not sure everyone agrees when I won't use them but I truly believe those words have true value and my ego doesn't make me need to be right when I know I'm wrong.

And, I feel I won when I say I'm wrong....why? because I learned what was "right" and will make better decisions because of it.
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Absolutely ! It eats at me until I admit it & say I am sorry .
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Old 11-29-2012, 03:17 PM   #43
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I actually know a person whose family name is Wrong. She is always wrong!
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I actually know a person whose family name is Wrong. She is always wrong!
Is her first name So?
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Is her first name So?
That's her middle name. Her first name is "Always."
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Interesting to see there is at least one brutally honest person who replied to the poll.
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I'm 54 years old. I can't imagine how many times I've been wrong over the years and I'm more than happy to admit it and apologize if appropriate.
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In my personal life I have no problem admitting when I was wrong.
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Old 11-29-2012, 06:35 PM   #50
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As I recently admitted to one of my colleagues -- "I was wrong. It's certainly not the first time, and, God willing, it won't be the last."
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Yes - I admit it when I'm wrong. I have found that admitting a wrong has less of a backlash than the personal bad vibes associated with lying to cover up a wrongdoing.
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There's "losing your temper" wrong, or "forgetting something" wrong. Then there are more mushy wrongs, where you might have been right, but there was no upside to it. In both instances, i'll apologize at the earliest convenience. The relationships are more valuable than my pride, or me being "right".

As for factual wrongs, where my memory or understanding are "wrong", that doesn't happen too often, not because I'm some Mensa candidate, but because I likely won't argue about something I have not explored. But, in that case, I'm usually happy to get a better understanding.
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Some interesting posts, thanks.

And the poll results I expected, so far 98% can admit they're wrong! Yeah, right - not even true here much less the population at large. I don't claim to know percentages, but it ain't 98%.

Just for fun anyway...
Maybe you are wrong to think it is not 98%?

But what are the odds you will admit it? edit: add smiley, just in case!

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As for factual wrongs, where my memory or understanding are "wrong", that doesn't happen too often, not because I'm some Mensa candidate, but because I likely won't argue about something I have not explored. But, in that case, I'm usually happy to get a better understanding.
Agreed - it's kinda funny, I'll sometimes kid people that I am seldom wrong, and later they'll say that I think I'm a 'know it all'. I have to explain, no, I don't know anywhere near 'everything', but I don't usually claim to know something unless I'm pretty sure of it. I tend to preface things with 'seems to me', 'IIRC', 'if I understand this right', or 'I'm pretty sure that'...

I know people who say stuff that they have no idea about, and they state it as fact. So I can't accept anything they say, even if they would be right. How can I know?

Anyhow, I didn't vote, because I think there are many categories of wrong, as HFWR pointed out. And I might hit the wrong button, and I'd have to find someone to blame.

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The Navy's nuclear training program makes all of us experts at admitting when we're wrong.

Unfortunately it also makes us experts at pointing out to other people when they're wrong, too. I say "unfortunately" because, although this technique works extremely well in the engineering spaces, it's a different story in the domestic spaces...
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In my personal life I have no problem admitting when I was wrong.
Is it much harder in your professional life?
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Maybe you are wrong to think it is not 98%?

But what are the odds you will admit it? edit: add smiley, just in case!

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I'd be more than happy to see any real data, and admit I'm wrong. Do you have anything aside from speculation (again)? Do you think 98% is in fact close to an accurate result?
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Old 11-30-2012, 08:37 AM   #58
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Isn't the poll a little skewed? I mean if you can't admit when you're wrong, most likely you can't admit that you can't admin when your wrong. (((ha ha ha)))
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I'd be more than happy to see any real data, and admit I'm wrong. Do you have anything aside from speculation (again)? Do you think 98% is in fact close to an accurate result?
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When I was younger, I would not admit it. Now that I am older, I have no problems admitting it. There are some on here who I think have NEVER even considered it. You know who you are...........
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