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Old 12-27-2014, 09:08 PM   #101
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At pushing 62 each, we have been married for 42 years. So very hard to train in a new one at this age.....


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Old 12-27-2014, 09:20 PM   #102
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In Colorado that is the same as the formal bureaucratic kind of marriage -- and incredibly easy to create. In addition, it has the same "rights, privileges, and headaches" when ending such an arrangement.

Common Law Marriage | Colorado Divorce & Family Law Guide
Stealth marriage is pretty common. Women's groups and divorce lawyers make a natural coalition to lobby for various gotcha(s)

I am sure I can get along fine with a love relationship near at hand but me living alone. I think you get a little more sex if you are in a committed relationship and live together, compared to the same relationship with separate beds. Still, to me it is not worth the added risk. If I found out that I got accidentally married I would be one unhappy man. Also, certain events that might claim your life if alone might be handled better with a live -in partner, but again, once you are dead, not much difference.

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Stealth marriage is pretty common. Women's groups and divorce lawyers make a natural coalition to lobby for various gotcha(s)

I am sure I can get along fine with a love relationship near at hand but me living alone. I think you get a little more sex if you are in a committed relationship and live together, compared to the same relationship with separate beds. Still, to me it is not worth the added risk. If I found out that I got accidentally married I would be one unhappy man. Also, certain events that might claim your life if alone might be handled better with a live -in partner, but again, once you are dead, not much difference.

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Honestly I don't think living/sleeping together, or not, makes any difference at all in the amount of sex if you are spending hours together every day. Nature will have its way, y'know?

I do wonder sometimes what would happen if I was in those "I've fallen and I can't get up!" situations. But we do spend every single afternoon together, and both of us have a key to the other's house. He would surely investigate if I did not answer the phone. Over the years we have had to do that a couple of times, when the other is completely incapacitated by severe illness, back issues, or whatever.

We have no desire to end up accidently married either, although I don't think that would happen in Louisiana. Still, we prefer to live separately right now for a variety of reasons. I know that married people have great reasons for being married, too, but in our case we both prefer living separately and staying single.
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Old 12-28-2014, 10:39 AM   #104
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Honestly I don't think living/sleeping together, or not, makes any difference at all in the amount of sex if you are spending hours together every day. Nature will have its way, y'know?
Maybe. But I may need some tutelage. Today after the football game I asked friend, Hey, if you're feeling the need for some sex today, just let me know.

Nada.

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Old 12-28-2014, 09:15 PM   #106
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There is a tax BENEFIT if one spouse is SAHM or has lower income and the other has higher income.
I didn't know that, but DW hasn't earned a paycheck in 23 years (after DD1 was born).
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Old 01-01-2015, 10:46 AM   #108
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I'm likely to outlive him because he's 15 years older and has some health issues and if that happens I doubt I'll marry again. I'd love the companionship of another good man and I'm open to that, but there are too many financial entanglements the state imposes on married couples.
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I didn't know that, but DW hasn't earned a paycheck in 23 years (after DD1 was born).
It's the way the joint income tiers work... Your joint income is/was just your income. So you're in a lower tier than if your wife had added income. The joint income tiers are less than double the single income in the higher tiers.

(It's a wash in the lower income tiers - 15% and lower.)
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I've known my wife since she was 16 and I was 17. We met when both of our families separately picked Chincoteague, Va as a summer vacation destination. So I've known her for over 43 years and been married for over 38. I love being married. The fact that my wife married me has enhanced my life to the point of literally saving my life dozens of times. With all my medical problems, I wouldn't even be here right now if not for her. And I would definitely not be retired!

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