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View Poll Results: Will you keep secrets to the grave?
No. I'll go out the same way I came in this world: a clean slate. 7 11.11%
No. Honesty is always the best policy. 3 4.76%
No. I like to reveal secrets for the heck of it. 0 0%
Yes. I like to keep secrets for the heck of it. 3 4.76%
Yes. But only those that were confided to me. 8 12.70%
Yes. But only those that won't hurt/harm others or myself. 18 28.57%
Other. 24 38.10%
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Old 11-24-2011, 05:32 PM   #21
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Old 11-24-2011, 08:02 PM   #22
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Old 11-24-2011, 09:11 PM   #23
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Not sure I really have any, at least of consequence.
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Old 11-24-2011, 11:03 PM   #24
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I answered "Other". From a personal standpoint, I will go the grave with a pretty clean slate. However, from a professional standpoint, there are things that some patients have told me that no one will ever know.
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Old 11-25-2011, 12:15 AM   #25
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While my mom and dad were still "with it", my dad thought my mom should reveal to us kids that she had been married/divorced before meeting dad. I would just as soon not know, though it has not been a problem to me.

My dad left a hand-written biography with my mom. She had left a note with it to "burn upon my death". I have not been able to read all the way through it yet. It reveals the life of a young, disabled man in the depths of the depression (and a lot more). In many ways, my dad was a very kind and generous man. But, to survive, he lived a life style that no one would envy and many would not survive. He saw things that chill my soul, e.g.., his brother was murdered and no one was punished. Picture the Harlan Co. of "Justified" and you get a good idea of how my dad had to live - but throw in the depression on top of that. How he became the "pillar" I knew is no less than a miracle.

So I see no problem with taking some secrets to the grave as long as doing so gives less pain than being open and honest. YMMV
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I don't think I have any secrets of any consequence either. Must lead a fairly boring life, as far as people unburdening themselves emotionally to me. I am pretty grateful for that, now that I think about it.
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Old 11-25-2011, 11:02 AM   #27
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1. Some personal type stuff confided to me in confidence.

2. Some Cold War stuff never declassified.

3. Some blindingly obvious stuff to anyone in 'the business' that we ain't supposed to know.

heh heh - of course someday some 'old phart' will write a book or something. And maybe make a movie.
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Old 11-25-2011, 05:42 PM   #29
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OK, OK I admit that I am guilty of all of that stuff. Sure I'm not proud of it and no, it does not make me feel better to get it off of my chest.
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I don't have any secrets for others telling me their secrets....I just listen and let it go. I am a little too blunt sometimes, but I will not change it.
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Old 11-25-2011, 08:23 PM   #31
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Unless her husband dies before I do.

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Absolutely there will be secrets that I will take to my grave, unless no one living will be harmed.

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