Originally Posted by citrine
I have tried that...letting go and walking away....I have been told that I am rude and not a team player. I have tried to be short and sweet in my conversations....tried to be accomodating and going above and beyond....one thing sets her off and done. We usually have blow up a month....and I am getting sick of it. I am also getting nervous that now with the exec director gone, she will start acting as if she is the one.
I pray, say the serenity prayer, smoke cigs, and call me sponser to get through situations with her.....they work for a little while until the next episode.
What scares me is that yesterday, I just saw red and could picture myself just ramming her head through the wall.....and that really shook me up....haven't felt like that in a LONG time.
i hear ya loud and clear. i didn't particularly mean you had to be accomodating or KA, just beat 'em at their own game. let me explain...from the outside of the aquarium, it looks like this person is going out of her way to make you look bad. and to make herself look good to mgmt. that's a given. this game i understand from my own experience (career and MIL from Hades).
the trick is to pave the way for her to make herself look bad (without your direct help) to mgmt, hence encourage her to submit all her bad ideas to mgmt and let her run with the rope.
devious? you betcha. but it places YOUR hands on YOUR steering wheel and you can have a secret chuckle to yourself.
we can never control how people act, but we can control how we react to them. hang in there and definitely look for greener pastures. it's easy to play armchair quarterback. i hope my comments give you a different perspective...the stress you are obviously under is bad news.