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Old 10-15-2014, 02:06 PM   #21
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We've been through it twice, and it's very hard, I don't know anything that makes it easier. But for us it was very clear, both had cancer and eventually stopped eating altogether, that can't be left to run it's course.

After the first, we went 1.5 years without dogs, it took that long for us to accept having a family member put down (couldn't risk facing that decision again).

We cried a lot with each passing, but in time the good memories overcome the sadness from their passing and the void it creates. We think of our five former dogs almost every day simply because there's always some little event that reminds us of each dogs behaviors. Now we remember the 12-16.5 years of joy each of them brought to our lives. Like others have said, it takes time...
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Old 10-15-2014, 02:36 PM   #22
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I've always liked this little saying or whatever you wish to call it.

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When our loved one dies, it’s as if they are on a ship, leaving port and disappearing over the horizon. And those of us left on the dock watch sadly and say, “There she goes.” And when the ship goes over the horizon we mourn because our loved one seems to be gone completely, because we can’t see her any more.

But, when the ship disappears over the horizon to us, it is just appearing to those at another port. And there are loved ones and fellow believers standing on the dock there who have already made the same journey. They are watching expectantly, and when the ship comes over the horizon and approaches, they cheer and say joyously, “Here she comes!”
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Old 10-15-2014, 02:54 PM   #23
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I wouldn't think much of someone who can hold their dog as it is euthanized and not cry about it.
This made me tear up just thinking of doing this with either of our dogs... and they're only two years old... and we've only had them for six months and 5 weeks respectively...
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Old 10-15-2014, 03:03 PM   #24
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For the last few days the weather here has been dreary. The markets have been no better. And the condition of our beloved family dog has gone downhill even faster.

It's time to say good-bye to her. We've decided the kindest thing we can do for her at this point is let her go. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done.

Have you gone through this? What makes it easier?
Yesterday - 14 year old Golden Retriever. Had the Vet come to the house and put him to sleep in the living room with two cats, one Pug and us adults present.

Sad - but with the knowledge that he lived a good life.

heh heh heh - at age 71 this is the fourth dog in my lifetime. Always a sad event.
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Thank you for all the support. It's done. DW and I held her and loved her to the end. She was a great girl. Ten years home schooling, working at home, a total part of the family. Heart broken.

UncleMick, sorry for your loss too.
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It's a sad week. Your caring is admirable.
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From "20 Essential Facts Dog Lovers Must Always Remember" -- No. 20:

"20. Come with me on difficult journeys. I understand that it’s hard for you, but please stay with me until the very end. Everything is better, easier and safer for me if you are with me. Remember, I love you."
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Old 10-15-2014, 05:32 PM   #28
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aim-high. I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 10-15-2014, 06:18 PM   #29
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Aim-high - our condolence. We hope her memory stay strong and brings you a smile. Best friend is an understatement. You stayed with her and comforted her. For us pet lovers, you are exactly what we want to be.
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Have you gone through this? What makes it easier?
Nothing makes it easier. I had to stop reading the replies because it was making me cry. I lost both of my dogs to cancer in 6 months of each other. That was three years ago and I still cry.
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Thank you for all the support. It's done. DW and I held her and loved her to the end. She was a great girl. Ten years home schooling, working at home, a total part of the family. Heart broken.

UncleMick, sorry for your loss too.
I am so sorry. You put her needs first, which took courage - you are to be commended for that.
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Yesterday - 14 year old Golden Retriever. Had the Vet come to the house and put him to sleep in the living room with two cats, one Pug and us adults present.

Sad - but with the knowledge that he lived a good life.

heh heh heh - at age 71 this is the fourth dog in my lifetime. Always a sad event.
I am so sorry for your loss. He was surrounded by love at the end - none of us can ask for more than that.
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aim-high: I'm so sorry for your loss. We love them so much and it is so hard to let them go. I have taken 3 cats on their final trip to the vet, and, looking back, I can say that each time I held on too long. They were clearly suffering greatly and I selfishly did not want to end it.
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I am so sorry for your loss, aim high. I'm looking at my 9-yr. old yellow lab as I type this, sleeping just a few feet away from me, and I cannot imagine what it will be like when the time comes for him. He's my loyal companion, my daily walking buddy, and much more. Pets are hard because you get so attached to them, and you know you are only going to have them for a relatively short period of time. But the joy they add to your life during that period of time is so great that it's worth it in the end.
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I have had to put one dog down a couple of years ago. She was probably going to die within the day otherwise.

I have had three die at home. As long as I can keep them comfortable, and they are not making a mess, they are welcome to stay.

I figure if I was in that shape, would I want a shot?
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Please take comfort in the fact that you provided a good home to your beloved dog.
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Just inherited my Mom's dog two weeks ago. This is probably her last night. Guess Mom will be getting her back.

Interestingly, Mom had told me Patches was 15. But the vet said he's been seeing her since Mom rescued her, and that was 1999 (15 years ago). Said she was full grown already, and probably 2 years old or so. So even though it's sad, 17+ years is pretty good for a medium sized dog.
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We had to put down our 17 year old dog many years ago. She had suffered a stroke. We now have 5 cats. It is not easy to let them go, since they are a part of our family.

Your dogs are no longer hurting. I am so sorry for the loss and your hurting, Aim-High and UncleMick.
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Sorry for your loss. The heavy heart will last a while. Our furry friends impact us deeply. Rest assured you will get through it and will remember your friend with a smile. Like others have said, time will heal the sorrow. But for now, be comforted that you had love and compassion to let your friend go.
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For those who are still with their furry friends some ideas how to spend one of the final days:
Jon Katz's Going Home: Spend one, last, perfect day with your dying dog.
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