You can look at these 2 forums in addition to the detailcity forum mentioned by Walt34. Autopedia will have more solutions for your scratch issues since the cover more online stores etc...
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I bought a Corolla in April and I have "invested" money into quality products bought thru autogeek.net. 3 weeks after I bought my car someone broke a glass window on my rear quarter panel and scratched it up bad enough that I will need to get it repainted. This car will never see a car wash of any kind. It is not that expensive or too time consuming to wash/wax a car. I use the following on my car:
ONR (Optimum No Rinse) $15.99 for 32 car washes<only takes 2-7 gallons to wash the entire car with no mess to clean up on the floor-no water hose needed!
(2) 5 gal buckets-~$10 Walmart, 1 with grit guard($10 online)
Pinnacle Souveran Paste Wax($$$), ordered a starter kit, cheaper.
Just ordered SSII B1G1F ~$50<<Great Wax, Wet looking and WOWO
Cobra waffle Weave MF Towels (~$28/2 sizes)<<These towels suck the water-Very impressive! No Wringing at all. 1 towel dries the entire car.
Buffing Towels ~$8 for 2 (B1G1F)
Clay Bar, I think it was $25.
303 for interior and black plastic on outise of car. WOWO
Stoners Invisible glass for windows, absolutely NO streaking. WOWO
Micro-Restore to clean Towels and pads etc...
My car shines and has a wet look with no scratches or swirls of any kind! After you remove the scratches, you may want to invest in some quality products and DIY...