Should I quit my job?
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Ok, a late update. After a period when things got better at work, things got worse again. I have quit my job this week. I feel so happy and relieved. My direct manager took it ok, the manager my team not so well, I won't go into what they said suffice to say they were putting down the new job as 'not as important as I think it is' blah blah blah. I stated my reasons as wanting to progress my career and the new role being a step forward for me which is true but the real reason was my crazy workplace was driving me mad. I found a new job before I quit and I think I will enjoy it more. Also a bit more $$$ towards my FI goal.
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Brat
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Congratulations!!!
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you may have chronic fatigue (Epstein-barr?) syndrome - hope you get to feeling better
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J*b stress I'm sure. Glad you are feeling better!
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Sounds like a great result. If you have a chance between now and when you leave without burning bridges to let them know that part of the reason you are leaving is their warped sense of work/life balance, you may be doing your co-workers a favor.
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Glad to hear that things worked out in the end. I followed this thread closely because I'm in the same boat. My workplace is toxic and i have a bi-polar manager overseeing my group. I have anxiety constantly and even while on vacation last week couldn't enjoy myself and had nightmares about being at work.
I have learned through this thread that it is much wiser to find another job and have it lined up before leaving. I have enough in my emergency fund to go a year and a half to two years without. But why waste it when I can try and find something before I leave.
Thanks for posting this and sharing!
I have learned through this thread that it is much wiser to find another job and have it lined up before leaving. I have enough in my emergency fund to go a year and a half to two years without. But why waste it when I can try and find something before I leave.
Thanks for posting this and sharing!
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My dad always told me that the time to reduce sail is the first moment you think you should.
Same with quitting, I'd say. If it wasn't working out, I've seldom seen things get better over the long run. That's why as a boss I never made counter offers once someone gave their notice.
Congrats on the move!
Same with quitting, I'd say. If it wasn't working out, I've seldom seen things get better over the long run. That's why as a boss I never made counter offers once someone gave their notice.
Congrats on the move!
Thank you all! I think it was job stress, I have been so much more relaxed ever since I resigned.
@Cassius King In many ways I wish I had found another job and left about 2 years ago but silly things kept holding me back from doing so such as not thinking I could get a better job, being 'comfortable' ie knowing how to do everything, having some good job benefits such as reasonable work hours, being able to buy extra leave etc.
Think about what is keeping you at your job, is it convenience? Maybe close to home etc? Good benefits?
If your workplace is making you anxious it's not worth staying. Give yourself a kick in the butt and get out there and apply for jobs. I wish I had done it sooner.
@Marko I agree with you totally. A friend who is studying Human resource management just learned in class the same thing, that unless salary is the only issue someone is unhappy with its not worth making a counteroffer as a few months later the employee would still be unhappy and will leave anyway. In my case I would not have stayed if I had been offered more money.
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@Cassius King In many ways I wish I had found another job and left about 2 years ago but silly things kept holding me back from doing so such as not thinking I could get a better job, being 'comfortable' ie knowing how to do everything, having some good job benefits such as reasonable work hours, being able to buy extra leave etc.
Think about what is keeping you at your job, is it convenience? Maybe close to home etc? Good benefits?
If your workplace is making you anxious it's not worth staying. Give yourself a kick in the butt and get out there and apply for jobs. I wish I had done it sooner.
@Marko I agree with you totally. A friend who is studying Human resource management just learned in class the same thing, that unless salary is the only issue someone is unhappy with its not worth making a counteroffer as a few months later the employee would still be unhappy and will leave anyway. In my case I would not have stayed if I had been offered more money.
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Retired HR Specialist here, one of my favorite books was "How to Work for a Jerk." IMHO once you have identified that you are dealing with a jerk move on. Life is too short.
@Brat you are so right. When I had issues with my former manager I went to a counsellor (part of my work benefits by the way but confidential) and she told me that there wasn't anything to do that my manager wasn't going to change and I should find another job. At the time I was not happy with this response but in retrospect I should have listened to her!
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The last 2 weeks at work are being tough, the manager of my area came up to me and was giving me a hard time asking me where this is up to and where that's up to but in a very mean tone, the people in my team who have known her for a while say it's because she's taking me leaving + another team member that recently left personally. I think that she is acting very immature. So trying to make it the last 2 weeks. Not long to go.
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She ought to take staff departures personally as it is her management that is causing the attrition.
pb4uski
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Tell her that she is unhappy with your work that you can jointly agree to end your work now if she wishes... and give her a wry smile while conveying the message... and hope that she takes you up on it.
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Look her straight in the face, and say "don't ever talk to me on that disrespectful tone". That'll throw her for a loop.
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I like it I like it, I could do with a few days off before I start my new job. Will try this if (when probably) she says something again. Unfortunately I know what she wants is for me to get as much done as possible before I go so I don't think she'll take me up on the offer, it should at least shut her up.
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I think I'll add this to pbusky's suggestion. I'm looking forward to it now [emoji4]
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Love to hear how the manager handles that!
I was waiting till my manager said something to me again but yesterday she did a total 360 and was really nice too me, too nice other people in the team commented that maybe she's bipolar or something it was so weird. Today my direct manager was in and I told her what had happened with the manager of the area and she just stared at me (because she knows what she's like) and then tried to justify it by saying that 'I've been up and about talking to people a lot' I told her not to try and justify it. I'm trying to hang on for the last few days mostly for my farewell lunch next week but we will see how we go.
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