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06-14-2017, 08:57 AM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Dec 2015
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Originally Posted by athena53
A kind gesture, but why did you do it? Frankly, I'd be a little insulted if a man paid for my car repair. I'm not a damsel in distress!
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At the time she was still dealing with the financial fallout of her husbands passing. We were starting to be serious, and she really appreciated it.
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06-14-2017, 09:14 AM
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#362
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Southern Cal
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Originally Posted by Amethyst
I had no idea what Mr. A was "worth" when we got married. We didn't discuss net worth. I knew he paid child support, had a house, claimed to pay his bills every month and not carry a balance (which turned out to be true), and drove a very beat-up car he'd bought from a friend. I also knew I loved him. Edit to add: In this whole thread, sex and money are mentioned a lot, but love comes up very seldom. I wonder why that is?
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I'm guessing you are not a fan of Tina Turner?
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06-14-2017, 09:31 AM
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Full time employment: Posting here.
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: The 850
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Originally Posted by exnavynuke
Sex and money *generally* come up a lot faster than one will "fall in love". If you can't get past the 'hurdles' on the way to falling in love, it's pretty well impossible to get to that point. While I may not jump in bed with a woman the first night I meet her, the odds are very high that we'll be sleeping together before I get to the point of "being in love" if history is any indication. Based on history, I'll also have a strong indication of how our values regarding money compare long before that point is reached.
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This.
I shared a bed with a chemo pump at end of the last marriage, and I'm willing to do so again. Will have to be another special lady and sorting out the things that have been discussed in this thread is part getting to that level of commitment.
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06-14-2017, 10:05 AM
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#364
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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Join Date: Dec 2008
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Maybe it is that the thread really started out with a focus on online dating, and meeting people just for dates.
By contrast, Mr. A. and I worked together. I mean really worked, as in coming in on weekends to deal with work crises, grumbling about the same co-workers, discussing the news, etc. It was obvious we shared the same values. And he had great taste, as I've mentioned earlier. I had given up on finding that in an attractive package.
Intellectual and moral compatibility was the linchpin; I didn't worry about sex. If you are strongly attracted, sex takes care of itself, except of course where medical problems are present. At least, that has been my (admittedly limited) experience. I've only been married twice.
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06-14-2017, 02:53 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Eastern WV Panhandle
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Originally Posted by athena53
A wise former boss used to say there are 3 issues that break up a marriage: sex, money and squeezing the toothpaste tube in the middle.
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This reminded me - about a year after DW and I got married my younger sister hesitantly asked "So how are things going with you and DW?"
I replied "Well, the worst thing I can say about her is that she squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle, but I guess I can live with that". Sister thought that was cute.
DW still squeezes the tube in the middle and I still don't care.
Next month will complete the 29th year so I think it's gonna work. 
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06-14-2017, 04:20 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2011
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Originally Posted by Walt34
This reminded me - about a year after DW and I got married my younger sister hesitantly asked "So how are things going with you and DW?"
I replied "Well, the worst thing I can say about her is that she squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle, but I guess I can live with that". Sister thought that was cute.
DW still squeezes the tube in the middle and I still don't care.
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Funny, ever since DW and I have been married, we have separate toothpaste tubes. I wonder if that's an omen of some kind?
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06-14-2017, 04:25 PM
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Moderator
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Eastern WV Panhandle
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Originally Posted by aja8888
Funny, ever since DW and I have been married, we have separate toothpaste tubes. I wonder if that's an omen of some kind?
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I doubt it, we've usually had different brands of toothpaste too. That's one reason why I don't care where she squeezes it.
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06-14-2017, 07:48 PM
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#368
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Southern Cal
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Originally Posted by aja8888
Funny, ever since DW and I have been married, we have separate toothpaste tubes. I wonder if that's an omen of some kind?
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We do too, we have separate sink so that's why. Plus my husband just switched over to a different brand because his teeth is more sensitive.
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06-14-2017, 08:23 PM
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Dryer sheet aficionado
Join Date: Mar 2014
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Originally Posted by aja8888
Funny, ever since DW and I have been married, we have separate toothpaste tubes. I wonder if that's an omen of some kind?
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Had to chuckle. We use different types of toothpaste. I have never thought about changing.
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06-14-2017, 08:49 PM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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Location: Lawn chair in Texas
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I'm not sure which is worse, that a relationship depends on something as minor as squeezing the toothpaste from the middle, or that people who squeeze the toothpaste in the middle annoy me...
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06-14-2017, 08:56 PM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Colorado Mountains
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Originally Posted by HFWR
I'm not sure which is worse, that a relationship depends on something as minor as squeezing the toothpaste from the middle, or that people who squeeze the toothpaste in the middle annoy me...
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I use toothpaste in an upside-down plastic bottle. Problem solved. 
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06-14-2017, 09:02 PM
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#372
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: West of the Mississippi
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06-15-2017, 04:01 AM
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#373
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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Join Date: Dec 2008
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Toothpaste is cheap. If the toothpaste is messed up, throw it away and get a new tube.
I also read about people fighting over which way the toilet paper is hung. I couldn't care less which way the toilet paper is hung - it still comes off the roll. It only bothers me if people don't replace an empty roll. And even then, I know where the spare rolls are in the bathroom cupboard.
I really think some people look for reasons to disagree. Like the ones who worry about "sex incompatibility" - they probably make a big deal out of who touched what first, or something.
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Originally Posted by Walt34
This reminded me - about a year after DW and I got married my younger sister hesitantly asked "So how are things going with you and DW?"
I replied "Well, the worst thing I can say about her is that she squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle, but I guess I can live with that". Sister thought that was cute.
DW still squeezes the tube in the middle and I still don't care.
Next month will complete the 29th year so I think it's gonna work. |
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