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Old 01-31-2007, 03:27 AM   #81
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On the other hand . . . While many women may like the idea of being in a committed long-term relationship without marrying, "There's a Lot You Can't Do If You're Not Married". This article points out the many legal restrictions that unfairly penalize unmarried couples, whether straight or gay.

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Old 01-31-2007, 09:15 AM   #82
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for me, obligations of a relationship go far beyond legal, even when not state sanctioned. were i to luck-out a third time & hook-up with someone who, say, this time did not have my means, and let that person become dependent on me to share my new early retired lifestyle, how could i possibly dump that person 10 years down the line without resources? this is especially relevant at this age. if i hooked up with someone 50 years old now who didn't have resources, how could i dump them at 60 with no finances? if i let someone become dependent on me in these later years, don't i become responsible for them for life?
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for me, obligations of a relationship go far beyond legal, even when not state sanctioned. were i to luck-out a third time & hook-up with someone who, say, this time did not have my means, and let that person become dependent on me to share my new early retired lifestyle, how could i possibly dump that person 10 years down the line without resources? this is especially relevant at this age. if i hooked up with someone 50 years old now who didn't have resources, how could i dump them at 60 with no finances? if i let someone become dependent on me in these later years, don't i become responsible for them for life?
I agree to an extent. Depending on WHY the relationship ended. If it were due to her infidelity then no way I am going to fund her future life with some jerk. If I am dead then my family is covered in my trust so I can "rest" assured they will get their fair share of what ever is left when I am no longer around to care.

If she left for other reasons and it was a mutually agreed upon split then I would be fair in the settlement (been there done that already). The key here is fair. 50:50 might be fair after 20 years of marriage but not after two.

It all depends on the why and the when.
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how could i dump them at 60 with no finances?
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Never lived together, and only married once, so I'm in no way any expert, but I always thought (in Canada anyway) if you live together for atleast 2 years, legally it was pretty well the same as being married. As far as parting ways if you know what I mean. Can't put it in words today.
According to my estate planning expert (in Canada)......if you live common law with someone for three years, he/she has spousal rights to your property. This means that he/she is entitled to 50% of your property after a breakup, or on death - unless you have a will. And I think that the will can be ruled null and void if you cut out your common law partner. If there is a child of the union, the entitlement kicks in after one year of cohabitation. The same rights now apply to gay couples, unless they have actually tied the knot, in which case there is no delay in spousal inheritance or divorce rights. Theronware's numbers sound plausible to me based on the number of gay couples I know who have kids.
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