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03-18-2016, 10:02 AM
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The most lovey dovey, affectionate in all ways, couple that I know sleeps in different bedrooms. I don't think where you sleep has anything to do with your relationship. (DH and I always sleep in the same bed.)
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03-18-2016, 10:06 AM
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#42
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Originally Posted by rodi
Perhaps I attach to much to it... But I disagree with ivinsfan... I sleep better snuggled next to my husband and find it much harder to fall asleep without him. I think that physical closeness and physical contact while we are asleep translates into a stronger connection when we are awake. But that's just my opinion... and it may not translate to another couple.
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03-18-2016, 10:08 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by rodi
Perhaps I attach to much to it... But I disagree with ivinsfan... I sleep better snuggled next to my husband and find it much harder to fall asleep without him. I think that physical closeness and physical contact while we are asleep translates into a stronger connection when we are awake. But that's just my opinion... and it may not translate to another couple.
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Yes,we are both around the mid-60' or more now and we worked 7 days a week at a job that required a 4AM wakeup and I think that we have messed up sleep patterns as well as age related sleep issues. All things being equal, we would still be in the same bed, but it's a trade-off we are willing to make for feeling more rested during the day and not being afraid to disturb each other when we can't sleep. I didn't mean to imply that it's not nice to snuggle with your SO, just that for some people it's not the optimal solution.
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03-18-2016, 10:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Koogie
However, something that has really improved our sleep was buying separate comforters. We found early on that most of the time when we were waking each other up it was because we were fighting over the covers in our sleep. DW went and bought matching double size comforters. So when the bed is made it looks more or less right but at night we each have our own comforter.
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This is a great idea! Thanks--we kinda do this with extra blankets in the winter, but that's brilliant to use two comforters. What about the sheets?
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03-18-2016, 11:29 AM
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We sleep together in sickness and in health. Isn't that what the wedding vows call for. Any how, I generally cannot get to sleep until DW comes to bed after being on her iPad until midnight or beyond .
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03-18-2016, 11:39 AM
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DW has a herniated disc and sleeps best in a recliner chair.
She's a night owl and I'm Mr. Early Bird. Throw in the occasional snoring issues, and it just works best to sleep separately.
Happily married for 39 years regardless of sleeping arrangements
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03-18-2016, 12:38 PM
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Until the last couple of months, the DW would get irritated when I would leave. BUT...she likes the TV on all freaking night, the dogs and cat take up 3/4 of the king size bed and she snores terribly bad. Eventually I think she realized just how irritated I was getting at the lack of sleep and gave in. So now, we go to bed together and I hang around until she drifts off and the snore train starts, then I vacate to my slice of heaven that is the guest room. Our relationship is actually better now that she gets to spread out and I am not nearly as irritable during the day.
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03-18-2016, 01:06 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Sarah in SC
This is a great idea! Thanks--we kinda do this with extra blankets in the winter, but that's brilliant to use two comforters. What about the sheets?
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What are these sheets you speak of ?
DW would love a flat sheet on top, as well as the fitted below. I cannot abide the flat top sheet. They twist around your feet, bunch up around your back.... bah, a pox on them !
(that's one battle she let me win)
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03-18-2016, 01:09 PM
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Weird, I know someone else who is like that about top sheets. Hmmmm, you've got me thinking...
However, if I keep getting up and sleeping in the guest room, it may be a moot point.
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03-18-2016, 02:59 PM
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Over the 35 years with DW we have always shared the same (queen) bed. We do occasionally disturb one another but I would not want to be separate. The only exception was when I got pneumonia and coughed so much she could not sleep at all.
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03-18-2016, 03:44 PM
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03-18-2016, 03:52 PM
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First 35 years DW and I slept in the same full sized bed. A couple of years ago we got a nice king bed, now I sometimes have to look to see if she's there. Of course of 38 years there were about 150 nights a year when I was on the road. Looking forward to ER in 42 days!
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03-18-2016, 03:54 PM
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For some reason I read the title as "Sleep with spouse or someone else"?
So I got nothing to contribute here
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03-18-2016, 06:35 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by foxfirev5
First 35 years DW and I slept in the same full sized bed. A couple of years ago we got a nice king bed, now I sometimes have to look to see if she's there. Of course of 38 years there were about 150 nights a year when I was on the road. Looking forward to ER in 42 days!
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Full sized bed? Wow!! That is intimate. I am single and thin framed and I sleep alone in a king size bed by myself. I love the space to roll around...When GF stays there is plenty of space. But she would never be allowed to stay over if I had a queen...That is not enough space for a roamer like me.
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03-18-2016, 07:42 PM
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We have two full size beds pushed together. Separate sheets and covers. Works great for us.
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03-19-2016, 08:51 AM
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03-19-2016, 08:56 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by dvalley
For some reason I read the title as "Sleep with spouse or someone else"?
So I got nothing to contribute here
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I get up earlier than DW and when I leave, magically the cat takes my place on the pillow.
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03-19-2016, 09:04 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by rodi
Perhaps I attach to much to it... But I disagree with ivinsfan... I sleep better snuggled next to my husband and find it much harder to fall asleep without him. I think that physical closeness and physical contact while we are asleep translates into a stronger connection when we are awake. But that's just my opinion... and it may not translate to another couple.
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My DW agrees with you.
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03-19-2016, 11:02 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by gerntz
.... I've been told I snore at times. I don't believe it.
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DW used to make the same claim. Her snoring woke me up one morning and my Blackberry was within arm's reach so I videoed her for a minute. Later plugged it into the 46" HDTV and played it.... it was a big hit.... with the kids!!
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03-19-2016, 11:10 AM
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Originally Posted by pb4uski
DW used to make the same claim. Her snoring woke me up one morning and my Blackberry was within arm's reach so I videoed her for a minute. Later plugged it into the 46" HDTV and played it.... it was a big hit.... with the kids!!
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At least now you know why you are sleeping alone.
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