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Old 03-19-2016, 09:27 PM   #61
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We sleep together in a king size bed with a cat and two small dogs. Some nights, I think separate rooms and pets might be a good idea.😉

We did sleep in separate guest rooms for about 4 weeks one when our master bedroom and bath were being remodeled. We both enjoyed our improved quality of sleep, but in the end, we like being together more.


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I'll bet your pets did not enjoy that separation one bit.
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I've found it interesting that when we've toured some old houses (Biltmore) or stayed at some larger B&B's that old money used to have separate rooms for the man and woman. I'm not certain, but I think the term "master" in master bedroom or master suite might have come from being the room the man or "master" stayed in. At any rate, I don't think it's all that uncommon to have separate sleeping arrangements.

Personally, still together in a king size bed, but no hesitation about sleeping on a couch or the in the other bedroom if that's where one of us fall asleep. As for snoring, we have a rule that you don't wake the other person up for snoring. That's what ear plugs are for.
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Depends on whether the girlfriend is staying over .....
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This is a timely topic as my nightmares are getting worse and sometimes I dream that someone is attacking me so I start punching DH in the head until he wakes up yelling. We have been standing up a pillow between us but last night I reached right over it. WE have 3 small dogs that sleep with us. He said if this continues I will be in guest bed. I don't think the dogs will like it. Ugh!
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This is a timely topic as my nightmares are getting worse and sometimes I dream that someone is attacking me so I start punching DH in the head until he wakes up yelling. We have been standing up a pillow between us but last night I reached right over it. WE have 3 small dogs that sleep with us. He said if this continues I will be in guest bed. I don't think the dogs will like it. Ugh!
Maybe the dogs can stay with DH and not go to the guest bed with you?
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The dogs are much more attached to me so that would be a problem.
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In Walden Two by BF Skinner there's a discussion between characters about this. By and large the residents found separate quarters preferable after childbearing years. Hadn't thought about that book in a long time, wonder where I put it?
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The most lovey dovey, affectionate in all ways, couple that I know sleeps in different bedrooms.
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These people are absolutely inseparable except at night. Both are prodigious snorers and have used separate bedrooms since very early in their marriage (over 40 years ago).
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This is a timely topic as my nightmares are getting worse and sometimes I dream that someone is attacking me so I start punching DH in the head until he wakes up yelling. We have been standing up a pillow between us but last night I reached right over it. WE have 3 small dogs that sleep with us. He said if this continues I will be in guest bed. I don't think the dogs will like it. Ugh!

I notice that you are a teacher? Are your nightmares related to that? I am retired, but have had nightmares related to my old education related job.


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We are together in a queen sized bed. We've never had a tv in the bedroom but we each have a reading light clipped to the headboard and DH has an assortment of radios and an internet streaming computer setup. He likes to fall asleep while listening to something with a small speaker under his pillow. He's got it set up so that I never hear it.

We used to have issues with snoring. Then I was diagnosed with sleep apnea and started on a CPAP machine. DH read all the info I brought home and realized he also had many of the symptoms. After a sleep test for him and diagnosis we ended up with matching CPAP machines. Takes a lot of the "ick" factor out of it when we are both using them.

DH is retired and I get up every morning with an alarm so I put my clothes out the night before and get dressed in the bathroom or the extra room where my computer is. DH used to do the same when he worked and got up before me.

Nice suggestion to get two blankets! Our winter comforter is just a little skimpy width wise and sometimes one of us will pull the cover off the other one.

The only time we've slept in different rooms is when I had my hip replacement. I needed to be able to get out of bed on the left side while recovering and that's DH's side in our bedroom. Switching sides would have been a lot of work including moving furniture to have enough room for the walker, so I stayed in the extra room with a single bed.
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No it is not related to work. Actually I worked in human services (social worker and then psychological testing) for my career and it was only after I retired that I started to teach. I teach a class at the college which I really love doing. Everyone in my family of origin had terrible nightmares as kids and some carried it into adulthood. 2 of my 3 boys have it too. It also used to include sleep walking/talking, etc. It is always someone chasing or hurting me so I start hitting them. For now I put up 2 huge pillows to block between the 2 of us. Hopefully, I can't reach over it like I did with the small pillow that was between us.
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No it is not related to work. Actually I worked in human services (social worker and then psychological testing) for my career and it was only after I retired that I started to teach. I teach a class at the college which I really love doing. Everyone in my family of origin had terrible nightmares as kids and some carried it into adulthood. 2 of my 3 boys have it too. It also used to include sleep walking/talking, etc. It is always someone chasing or hurting me so I start hitting them. For now I put up 2 huge pillows to block between the 2 of us. Hopefully, I can't reach over it like I did with the small pillow that was between us.

That's tough. I used to have terrible nightmares as a child, but I managed to get over them. I hope the pillows work!


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Over the 35 years with DW we have always shared the same (queen) bed. We do occasionally disturb one another but I would not want to be separate. The only exception was when I got pneumonia and coughed so much she could not sleep at all.

We've always slept on the same bed unless one of us is sick or we had a heated argument which happened maybe a couple of times. We're relatively small people and have plenty of space to roam around in bed. She loves to have multiple pillows around her and occassionally, the sheets slide off one of us and the other one pulls it back in place. I give her a rub down when she wants it. We stay in place even when we're sick. I don't mind getting up to give her water or medicine when she needs it in the middle of the night. If she's watching tv and I decide to watch something else on the ipad or laptop, I put on the earbud.

I have problem staying asleep. I wake up at 3 am, get out of bed, read for an hour and fall back to sleep. She is cognizant of that and make sure that when she gets up for work, I don't get disturbed.
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DH falls asleep watching TV on the couch almost every night. He typically comes to bed around 2am or 3am. I go to bed by 10am, so I guess we sleep together half the night.
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