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Old 04-04-2008, 06:50 PM   #1
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Study - Slobby guys create more work for wives

Slobby guys create more work for wives - Study: For women, marriage means 7 more hours of chores a week

Study: Slobby guys create more work for wives - Behavior - MSNBC.com

I guess the study confirms what my friend's wives and my wife have been telling us.

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Old 04-04-2008, 06:56 PM   #2
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They needed to do a study for that?
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Old 04-04-2008, 07:07 PM   #3
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Could there be a reason that some of us find dating preferable to marriage??

Let's see.

Instead of spending all Saturday washing his dirty clothes, we do our own during the week and spend Saturday browsing through our favorite antique shops together.

Instead of slaving over a hot stove, he takes me out to fine restaurants to eat.

Instead of picking up after him all afternoon, I enjoy afternoons with him at a great movie or off on a pleasant drive.

And on, and on...

Yes! Personally, right now I happen to prefer dating to being married. Each to his/her own!
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My SO is messy and I pick up after him . He in turn just replaced the front door ,handles all the pool problems ,caught the racoon that invaded the house ,does most of the tree trimming ,takes out the garbage , cooks when I don't feel like it ,takes care of me when I'm sick and makes great omelets for Sunday breakfast so it's a fair trade off ! Plus he keeps the bed warm .
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My SO is messy and I pick up after him . He in turn just replaced the front door ,handles all the pool problems ,caught the racoon that invaded the house ,does most of the tree trimming ,takes out the garbage , cooks when I don't feel like it ,takes care of me when I'm sick and makes great omelets for Sunday breakfast so it's a fair trade off ! Plus he keeps the bed warm .
Each to her own! But I heard somewhere that keeping the bed warm doesn't actually require a marriage license (sssh!! I didn't say that)
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A warm bed is preferable, that's for sure.
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My SO is messy and I pick up after him . He in turn just replaced the front door ,handles all the pool problems ,caught the racoon that invaded the house ,does most of the tree trimming ,takes out the garbage , cooks when I don't feel like it ,takes care of me when I'm sick and makes great omelets for Sunday breakfast so it's a fair trade off ! Plus he keeps the bed warm .
Lucky guy. Ok I'm not good with home repairs, but the rest is doable. I'm available if something happens.
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Wait just a minute! What goes around comes around...I spend time:

Taking care of her car for her
Building things she wants
Searching for things she wants
Cooking for her when she has her friends over
Cooking every weekend including some prep for the week ahead
Working more overtime hours to buy her nice things (younger days, not paid OT now)
Caring for her parents in both physical and monetary contributions

ETC, ETC, ETC.

Remember that my DW is a stay-at-home mom and homemaker, and I am a very senior executive with lots of late work and lots of travel, but still try to devote lots of time to my marraige, home and family.

Let's not forget that a successful marraige is a partnership where each partner gives 100%. A 50/50 contribution does not work, never has and never will. The reason so many marraiges fail is because one or the other or both want to give less than 100% to the partnership. From the male perspective I can see that it probably is more often the man who isn't willing to give his 100%, but that is not always the case.

I know I might get some grief for this post, but it is what I truly believe. All of this said, I don't judge anyone who is divorced, because that is a very personal decision with personal reasons and circumstances that are myriad and have multiple perspectives. I do say that most could work harder at making it work, though. Marraige has become too easy to just give up.

Bottom line: Yes her work load on some things increases, but so does his.

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Each to her own! But I heard somewhere that keeping the bed warm doesn't actually require a marriage license (sssh!! I didn't say that)

Good because we are not married ! Just living in wild sin !
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Good because we are not married ! Just living in wild sin !
Yep - the cooking and cleaning I can mostly put up with - BUT there is one room she can't touch, my computer room which I keep - wildly and creatively sloppy to remind me (of what I'm not really sure) - but I know it's a 'guy thing'!

er ah I think??

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Good because we are not married ! Just living in wild sin !
There's nothing wrong with that. A little love and compassion never hurt anyone.

Here is a nice love song. As Tennillle would say to the Captain - Do that to me one more time



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We each have our own little stashes of stuff that the other isn't allowed to touch. But we work together to keep the common areas around the house neat and tidy. My shop gets a little messy when I'm on a big project but that's my space and it's in the garage so no one sees it but me. DW has one bedroom that gets a little trashed out with seasonal clothes once in a while.

In the kitchen there is a magnet on the fridge that says,
This is a self cleaning kitchen
Clean up after yourself!
The cook is off duty!

Years ago when we first got married my parents would call once in a while and say they were going to stop by in a little while. OMG, we had just 25 minutes to get the place shipshape. I was usually putting the vacuum in the closet when the doorbell rang.
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Different people do it different ways I guess. We're both on the same page on this as in so many other things. (Maybe that's why the marriage works? Duh.)

I hang up my stuff, wouldn't think of leaving it lying around for her to pick up. Cooking/cleaning is split pretty much evenly, although she is a little more fussy about dust bunnies than I am. I can iron my own shirts. I do windows and bathrooms.

Shortly after we got married she'd had a long day and said something about she "had to iron my shirts". I told her that we both worked 40-hour weeks and who did she think ironed my shirts before we got married? But her mother was a stay-at-home-mom, and did the ironing, so I think she carried that expectation into the marriage.

The workshop however, is a different story. That is MY room and things may appear unorganized to the untrained eye but I know where everything is.
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Right on Wags!

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GREAT SONG.

Jim Croce is the man. I love the man's music. It's just too bad that the man left us so early.



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Wags, do you have youtube memorized? You seem to have a song or video for every occasion.
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Wags, do you have youtube memorized? You seem to have a song or video for every occasion.
I love music and as my dear departed mother once told me that music and songs have a way of curing the soul and thus if someone does not like you or is mad at you it is next to impossible for them to remain that way after they have heard a good song.

With that being said here is another Jim Croce song


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Sounds like a good philosphy. Seems like too many people can't disagree on ideas without it turning to anger or hate.
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DW is the sloppy one so I usually pick up after her. I also do all the yard work, clean the floors, vacuum the carpets, fix the cars, fix the motorhome, fix the house, wash my clothes ( she does her own), take care of the dogs, do the dishes, cook a few times a week, do the bills and fiances, take care of the yard, etc. I was brought up doing these things and more by my mother and dad who shared the house work load.

My mother raised us to be independent. We were taught to iron, clean, sew, and cook. My dad taught us to fix and build stuff and do yard work. I don't need anyone to pick up after me. I managed to survive very well on my own for a number of years and do so today to a great extent due to my wife's health issues.

Oh, and I keep the bed warm for DW and the dogs. I guess I must put out a lot of heat because I am popular all winter.
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DW is the sloppy one so I usually pick up after her. I also do all the yard work, clean the floors, vacuum the carpets, fix the cars, fix the motorhome, fix the house, wash my clothes ( she does her own), take care of the dogs, do the dishes, cook a few times a week, do the bills and fiances, take care of the yard, etc. I was brought up doing these things and more by my mother and dad who shared the house work load.

My mother raised us to be independent. We were taught to iron, clean, sew, and cook. My dad taught us to fix and build stuff and do yard work. I don't need anyone to pick up after me. I managed to survive very well on my own for a number of years and do so today to a great extent due to my wife's health issues.

Oh, and I keep the bed warm for DW and the dogs. I guess I must put out a lot of heat because I am popular all winter.
Hey Steve.. I was taught the same. Learn how to cook and sew..clean. Stereotypes got to love em. Though sometimes its good to play along
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