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Before I got together with my soul mate I was a younger than the group you reference, but I watched so many single men sink their ships with women in the group with what I think is similar behavior to what you are talking about.OK, too late to edit, so I'll add: This is one of my smaller pet peeves. Patronizing, I believe it's called. And it happens a lot, to me, with that age group.
I call it "big brother" behavior because my brother does it, and he's 75. His guy friends do it, too - talk to me like I'm a little girl. I run into it at the gym with the older men, too. Unsolicited, dopey advice about the machinery. Some 70-year-old guy commented the other day, after working in with me, "Wow, that's a lot of weight for you." It was the same weight he was using!
Many men feel cut adrift today. I think they may think that if they can be useful they might be acceptable. Also, commonly older men are not well attuned to how the wind blows. I believe many think that giving information and "guidance" will help them and be helpful to the woman. In fact, as you say, this behavior is likely a big turnoff to many but not all women.
When I was single I tried to keep my mouth shut, except to use "keep talking" and affirmation conversational techniques with various women at the table. Affirm, affirm, affirm, no matter how bizarre you may think what she is saying is! I am almost always much more interested in how people say things, than in what they are saying. Very often they are basically lying, but so what, one can still learn a lot by listening.
Anyway this is perhaps a good time to be female, so enjoy. Like the Byrds sang,
A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep
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