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Old 09-02-2017, 11:26 AM   #41
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I lived with my parents while attending undergraduate school. My father, who was retired, was extremely old-fashioned and strict. I even had a midnight curfew until I was 20. Nevertheless, he had no idea what I got up to on campus (which wasn't much, but it could have been, if I'd been so inclined). As for monitoring, I am sure that if Big Brother had been around back then, I could have foiled him if I'd wanted to. College kids are smart, remember.
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Old 09-02-2017, 12:22 PM   #42
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DD - OMG, Ma! I did the bars. I went to the gym and worked out....on the UNEVEN bars. What the hell...?

Me - Whoops

I stopped worrying about her after that

Now that is funny...
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Old 09-02-2017, 12:29 PM   #43
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Ray, When you first posted he had only been gone about a week and you had 2 conversations and were checking up on his eating habits.

Actually he told the Mrs he wasn't eating in the cafe. The school is small and there is limited options. I spoke to him once and reminded him to eat.
1) He lost a lot of weight recently
2) The meal plan cost several thousand and we opted for the most meals.

Subsequently We've checked his bill to make sure there were charges from the cafe.

All conversations (few and limited) have been texts initiated by him and business related. I.e. How do I the wash?

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When he was home, he was "on his computer gaming staying up until 2am and getting up at midday." Did this same behavior follow him to college?

I have no idea but I hope not - he's got 9AM classes Monday - Friday.
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Old 09-02-2017, 01:48 PM   #44
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Be concerned with his results (grades). If these turn out good - how he gets them is up to him.

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I have no idea but I hope not - he's got 9AM classes Monday - Friday.
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Be concerned with his results (grades). If these turn out good - how he gets them is up to him.

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One of my favorite sayings about parenting (never been one, never will be one) is "Good parents provide their kids with roots and wings."

The bad news for the OP is that his son has flown the coop. His son will have to manage with the wings he has. Let him go. No more remote monitoring!

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One of my favorite sayings about parenting (never been one, never will be one) is "Good parents provide their kids with roots and wings."

The bad news for the OP is that his son has flown the coop. His son will have to manage with the wings he has. Let him go. No more remote monitoring!

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I have to agree and I am a parent .
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The bad news for the OP is that his son has flown the coop.

Actually I thought it was good news for him to get out of the rut he was in. Work (they wanted too many hours), gaming too isolated. By the by he didn't fly the coop he got kicked out of the nest. I loved college, thought it was great for me, it was for the daughter and I hope it will be for him as well.

Update: he walked in about 7:00 last night, stayed up about 1/2 hour said he was exhausted and went to bed. Where he remains at this moment I predict stirring about 10:30AM (new 9AM class habits). Amazing thing! He came home with books in tow. Unbelievable.

We asked why he did come home after class he responded "too lazy".
Earlier in the day we exchanged some text on the Penn State game (Crushed Akron 52-0) I figure penn state has so much of my money I might as well root for them. Yeah the timings right they are a very solid team once again.
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Is he on the main campus, or a satellite? Main campus looks like such a fun place. I think only the most jaded young person would get bored there.

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We asked why he did come home after class he responded "too lazy".
Earlier in the day we exchanged some text on the Penn State game (Crushed Akron 52-0) I figure penn state has so much of my money I might as well root for them. Yeah the timings right they are a very solid team once again.
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I sit here in utter amazement; not only did he open a book (calculus). He spent a good three hours on his homework. Fortunately my daughter and her boyfriend were home and both tutored calculus in college. Plenty of help was sought and given.

I was so impressed I stayed up and helped him craft his first paper for his English class. The subject was what did I learn from my first job. Working in a supermarket for just above minimum wage and dealing with nasty customers provided plenty of fodder ...

Metamorphosis? I am hopeful. I encouraged him to get tutorial help and join a study group. Calculus has been the Bain of many a freshmen's existence. I believe If the help is available go and get it.
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I sit here in utter amazement; not only did he open a book (calculus). He spent a good three hours on his homework. Fortunately my daughter and her boyfriend were home and both tutored calculus in college. Plenty of help was sought and given.

I was so impressed I stayed up and helped him craft his first paper for his English class. The subject was what did I learn from my first job. Working in a supermarket for just above minimum wage and dealing with nasty customers provided plenty of fodder ...

Metamorphosis? I am hopeful. I encouraged him to get tutorial help and join a study group. Calculus has been the Bain of many a freshmen's existence. I believe If the help is available go and get it.
There ya go, they can surprise you can't they. If you bought a meal plan I don't understand the comment about checking for food charges.Trust the kid to at least feed himself. First you said he was too podgy and now you say he's too skinny..give him a break on the food and leave him alone. You can't manage his food intake remotely.
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Ray, from the perspective of being the mother of six sons (all very different) I think you are doing just fine. There is nothing wrong with some reasonable monitoring.
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If nothing else, resist the urge to sit in on his first interview after college. I hear that is happening these days.
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There ya go, they can surprise you can't they. If you bought a meal plan I don't understand the comment about checking for food charges.

He told us he just wasn't eating at the cafeteria... i was and am concerned about making certain he ate enough and had regular healthy meals. When he was working He got in the habit of skipping meals. His mother complained "he doesn't eat." It's my opinion he's just too lazy to walk over there.

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If nothing else, resist the urge to sit in on his first interview after college. I hear that is happening these days.

Mike I'm just happy he texted his mother at 3:00PM he made it safely back to campus. He left at 1:20PM. If he even gets an interview he'll be doing better then many grads today. My daughter did it all on her own I'll expect the same from him.
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I went away to college at 6'3" and 165 lbs. At the end of the first year, I weighed 210 lbs. We had a meal card with unlimited seconds. We also at at least one meal out daily and drank massive amounts of beer.

And to think my parents never said a word about the weight gain. It's very common for college students when they "grow up." I'm just glad my parents didn't have access to an ATM card 1968 to 1972.
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