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Old 03-23-2009, 09:14 AM   #1
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To Me, This is Sad.........:(

Amid a New Baby Boom, a Jump in Adult Unwed Mothers

Once again, the real VICTIMS are the children.........
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SHould probably be moved to Other Topics...sorry.........
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OK, did so for you. Thanks for pointing that out.

And yes, I agree that it is sad! The breakdown of families as we know them seems to be eliminating fathers from the equation. Fathers can be a huge influence on many kids and it is sad that all these kids don't have a father. Makes more work for the mothers, too.
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I remember an article in Newsweek (?) in the 70s about the same issue - The title was:
"The death of Shame"
I wish I could find that article - it was great.
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I can't imagine growing up without a dad. Of course, my mom died when I was 5, and my dad remarried, because HE didn't want to be alone, and he wanted US to have a mom.........

I already SCARED my kids my telling them if they are ever on national tv in sports, and don't say "HI DAD"!!, along with the standard "HI MOM"!!!!, don't bother asking for money ever again............
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Maybe the octomom is skewing the statistics a few base points?
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There was no such thing as a sex education class when I went to school.

I had the beejeebers scared out of me when a couple of girls I knew had to "go away" for a while. It's sad when fear keeps you guessing....
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Sweden's rate of unwed mothers is higher (55% in 2003), but it's because many couples there choose to not get married. I wonder if that situation contributes to the statistic here.
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I remember an article in Newsweek (?) in the 70s about the same issue - The title was:
"The death of Shame"
It worked for equities. Not so much here.
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Sweden's rate of unwed mothers is higher (55% in 2003), but it's because many couples there choose to not get married. I wonder if that situation contributes to the statistic here.
I doubt to any great extent. It's true that the marriage penalty is alive and well here in the good ole USA. But, I don't think the number of couples chosing to not wed, despite being parents, just to pay lower taxes is very large.
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There was no such thing as a sex education class when I went to school.
So everyone resorted to good ol' OJT ?
Just kidding...Our sex ed consisted of a 5th grade "Becoming a Woman" class without any sex ed, followed by a senior year of HS Health class. Both were taught by nuns.
My older sister gave me a great book called "The Student's Guide to Sex on Campus" when she came back from her freshman year. This was my best sex ed source ever.
Planned Parenthood was not available to minors, even in liberal NY until you turned 18. Neither were condoms, but there was 1 drugstore pharmacist who didn't ask about age.
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Well, I did hear boys have cooties....
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We do! so do you girls. Ewwww
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Well, I did hear boys have cooties....
...never heard it called that before.
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Well, I did hear boys have cooties....
So much for square dancing with the boys...
The Treatment Section here Cooties - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia is a riot.
I had a deprived childhood - I never got my "cooties shot".
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So much for square dancing with the boys...
The Treatment Section here Cooties - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia is a riot.
As a child of the 1970s, I can assure you that "Cooties Spray" existed before the 1980s.
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Sweden's rate of unwed mothers is higher (55% in 2003), but it's because many couples there choose to not get married. I wonder if that situation contributes to the statistic here.
This is anecdotal, but as the father of an unwed mother I have some experience.

We know at least a dozen unwed mothers. With the younger ones (like DD), it is mostly due to the father either bailing completely, or at least deciding he doesn't want to be married. But we also know quite a few older (than late teens early 20s) moms who choose to have babies without getting married. They either do the sperm donor thing, or in some cases ask a guy to get them pregnant with no strings attached. One of the guys stays involved somewhat, but the others aren't in the picture.

I'm not defending the practice, but I think if they did a study about intentional vs. unintentional motherhood, they'd get a lot more concious decisions than you might think.

Personally, I never had a father (divorce at an early age), so I can't say how big a deal it is. You grow up thinking your situation is normal, no matter what it is. You pretty much make your own way in life, and one parent can impart good (or crappy) values as easily as two.
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We know at least a dozen unwed mothers. With the younger ones (like DD), it is mostly due to the father either bailing completely, or at least deciding he doesn't want to be married. But we also know quite a few older (than late teens early 20s) moms who choose to have babies without getting married. They either do the sperm donor thing, or in some cases ask a guy to get them pregnant with no strings attached. One of the guys stays involved somewhat, but the others aren't in the picture.
I think DIVORCE is MUCH DIFFERENT than being an INTENTIONAL single mom.

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Personally, I never had a father (divorce at an early age), so I can't say how big a deal it is. You grow up thinking your situation is normal, no matter what it is. You pretty much make your own way in life, and one parent can impart good (or crappy) values as easily as two.
Well, you DO have a father, whether you have a relationship with him does not change the fact that you DO have a father........
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