Originally Posted by Katsmeow
I'm not sure if you are commenting on my son's situation.
That was not my intention. Particulars of a situation always trump generalities, and his particulars are unknown to me. Knowing only what you wrote, I might have bought his tires, but not his gas, rent, or insurance. With a daughter, I might (or might not) be a little more liberal.
I was just offering a successful real life example that to me appears to be contrary to the overall board preference for tough love policies. The parents in my example are also very well off, not in a position where they might have to be concerned about their own well being.