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Old 06-10-2015, 08:16 AM   #61
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Survived the mother of the bride, ex wife thing, whew! The pictures will be where it gets awkward. My wife and I were placed next to ex and her husband. The photographer says, "there seems to be an opening between you guys" ya right! Have to just suck it up and get through it for DD. The promise I made myself was that I would not do anything that would bring attention to myself or embarrass her. Mission accomplished.
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Old 06-10-2015, 11:26 AM   #62
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Classic man! OF COURSE there is a color scheme! Lol!
It might make it easier if you decide whether you are giving a gift to each couple, or to men and women separately for gift ideas. Something special from your new town is nice, and edibles are always popular, perhaps in a nice box that has your names and the date on it.
As it turns out, it is something called "Mauve" I am reliably informed by Google that that is some shade of purple. Funny, I thought it was a 70s sitcom..

My father-in-law is taking care of flowers. Here's hoping the poor old fella can find some "mauve" ones

Nice ideas as well. Since it's just our immediate family we have a mix of oldsters, siblings and young nieces. Probably a good idea to get something different for the gents and ladies.
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My father-in-law is taking care of flowers. Here's hoping the poor old fella can find some "mauve" ones
Freesia, hydrangea, lilacs, some rose varieties.

And they can also start with white flowers and spray them any color you want. Anything's possible if you throw enough money at it.
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I proposed in 1994. When my future FIL-A frugal man that retired early-found out he took his daughter aside and offered her $4000 to elope. We didn't, but took that as the approximate limit for wedding expense. We had a very nice rehearsal dinner at a local restaurant, ceremony at our church, and reception at a local B and B for our 100 guests.


My parents-also somewhat frugal-gave us $500 towards a honeymoon. We-also frugal-spent a long weekend in a nearby city and banked the $100 leftover.
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I love this. My wedding 9 years ago cost about $120. $60 for the license, and $60 for the judge.
The license fee reminded me - when DW and I were engaged the fee for the marriage license had just been raised from $20 to $25, the extra $5 going to spousal abuse programs. I had seen a notice of that at work.

Anyway, I mentioned that to the clerk at the courthouse and she responded that few people knew about it. Then I asked "Does that mean I can beat her since I already paid?"

She was most definitely NOT amused. Some people just don't appreciate warped humor....
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I remember my parents telling me that our relative's Italian weddings in Brooklyn would be more in the $40k-50K mark. I told them I'd rather have the money for a down payment on a house! (never married so they lucked out...)
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Freesia, hydrangea, lilacs, some rose varieties.

And they can also start with white flowers and spray them any color you want. Anything's possible if you throw enough money at it.
They spray paint flowers now ?!?!?! OMG. There is a gulf of stuff out there men never learn about. So, to save my FIL money could I pick the dandelions in our front yard and just use my spray can of Tremclad on them ? Lol
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Koogie, I will now refer you to the old joke about brides and old dogs!
See, the chasm is deep and wide. Trust us on this, all you need to say is "that sounds wonderful" as many times as is needed!
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In 2002 we were both about 40. We paid about $2500 for the entire wedding and had almost 100 guests. Rented a lovely rustic hall and a large picnic shelter in a nearby state park. Outdoor ceremony with a stunning back drop. Minimalist decorations other than those provided by mother nature. Side dishes prepped the day before by my family and friends. Barbecue day of by friends with wine and beer. Great local band and dancing in the hall. Cake provided by my parents. Flowers by my gardening friends. Pictures by a photographer friend and disposable cameras. All gifts to charity as we were two established households. Cabin in the state park for us that night and many friends camped at the park. It was lovely and I wish I'd had more time to enjoy it. I'm still told by many attendees that it wad a truly great celebration.
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Koogie, I will now refer you to the old joke about brides and old dogs!
See, the chasm is deep and wide. Trust us on this, all you need to say is "that sounds wonderful" as many times as is needed!
I don't think I'll google that joke. Wouldn't want to be halfway through telling it at the wedding before I remember the punchline...

"Yes, Dear" that's just a Man 101 skill...
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Another good tip for a toast to your bride: never, ever, ever try to be funny. I'll spare you the story of my dad, at their 50th anniversary party, attempting to tell a joke at the expense of my mom. Not pretty. Sooooo not pretty.

Smart man like you already knows the yes, dear.
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Smart man like you already knows the yes, dear.
I was taught that at a very early age.

BTW, the British version is "Yes, m'love".

Any combination will work just fine.
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