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Old 06-10-2008, 09:05 PM   #1
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What do you want?

Spinning off from: Finding Contentment...I guess that is the goal??
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All my life I have been told what I want.

To get married
To have children
To have a big house
To have a luxury car
To have cool toys
To have 'in' clothes, jewelry, shoes...

For a while I believed some of it.

I realized that I don't want most of what I'm told I should.

What have you found you don't want, that you have been told you do?




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Old 06-10-2008, 09:14 PM   #2
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I was told by my mom way back when I was in my early teens to find the love of my life and treat her with respect and love her till the end of time. To find that right person and be happy. Everything else is well secondary.

Always was told to strive to educate myself, be friendly happy and make the right choices.

Never was big on material things but have always lived within my means and have had and continue to be happy as a pig in you know what with one fantastic lady. And all the things needed in 2008 and not owe anyone much money!
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Nothing really.

Sums it up..

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Old 06-11-2008, 03:57 AM   #4
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Moneeeeeeey (Pink Floyd).

Not because I am greedy... because I want to ER.
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Old 06-11-2008, 09:11 AM   #5
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Once I realized I was driven by genetic coding, cultural instruction, and ego-almost all the wants I did have, disappeared or were mitigated to a great degree.
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Old 06-11-2008, 09:25 AM   #6
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I would like my very conservative 35/65 portfolio to perform to historical averages (or at least 70% of that!). Seeing my large-cap US/Foreign fall -1.35%, small/mid-cap fall -1.03%, and bonds fall -1.10% the past 2 days, I feel like I have nowhere to invest.

While I am at it, I would like the winning numbers to tonight's Lotto.
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I'd like the effing AC at work to get fixed post haste. 80+F and rising...

I'd like the capital markets to start making some sort of sense again, too.
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Old 06-11-2008, 09:32 AM   #9
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I'd like the effing AC at work to get fixed post haste. 80+F and rising...

I'd like the capital markets to start making some sort of sense again, too.
When I read this, one word (ok two, but they are pronounced the same) popped into my mind: Rheem
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i'm sorry, was someone talking to me? i've always been too self-centered to pay attention to what the world might have said i should want. i learned early that the world interferes with my self-absorption only when i have failed to accomplish one of its minimal requirements. so i walk the dog, i take out the garbage, i do my homework and get good grades with minimal effort and then i am free to return to daydreaming.

i don't just avert my attention to advertisements or societal expectations. apparently i have gotten so good at this that you can be one of my very good friends, spot me at an intersection, pull up along side of me, start honking your horn like a crazy person and i might not even know that you are there. fortunately, i have some very understanding friends. and that's really all i ever wanted.
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Old 06-11-2008, 10:06 AM   #11
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Moneeeeeeey (Pink Floyd).
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I'd like the capital markets to start making some sort of sense again, too.
Ding! Ding! Ding!
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Old 06-11-2008, 11:34 AM   #13
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All my life I have been told what I want.

To get married
To have children
To have a big house
To have a luxury car
To have cool toys
To have 'in' clothes, jewelry, shoes...

For a while I believed some of it.

I realized that I don't want most of what I'm told I should.

What have you found you don't want, that you have been told you do?

All of the above. Except for the husband, I got none of them. And that is all I need on that list. I am baffled by commercials showing the latest/greatest/must-have item and amazed that so many people are willing to sit through so much advertising in order to watch TV--there are thankfully no ads in my books--yet!

Oh, and yeah, about the capital market, that too!
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Old 06-11-2008, 11:55 AM   #14
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Lemme see...

DW and I thought we wanted kids, realized we didn't. Still have second thoughts some times, probably primarily from societal pressure.

Big house -- always wanted a 6000 sq foot house. Now we'd like a nicer house, but 2000 sq ft is just about big enough. Have enough trouble maintaining and cleaning what we've got now.

To work until age 65 -- I'm sure that's universal on this board, but we're pretty much told how to live -- 40-45 years at the office.

The latest technological gadgets. I'm a fairly late adopter of a lot of things. No desire for an iPhone, not much for a Wii.

A number of other things I find I still do want: I drive a BMW, MIL has a vacation house that we'll purchase from her estate (hopefully not for another 30 years, though), we'll probably get a nicer house before retiring.
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Old 06-11-2008, 11:59 AM   #15
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I am with you Khan. I was told I should want all things on your list. I don't need or want anything on the list except the great spouse.

The clothes and jewelry were important to me a one time. I heard Suze Orman (sorry....) say once that women needed to realize that "if it's on your ass, it isn't an asset". I was deep in to my accummulation stage and started looking at those clothes purchases a little different.

I have never been into toys and cool cars. My current ride is a Yaris. Big houses, ours is much bigger than I ever wanted (2600 sq ft). I was over ruled by the spouse and we got more house than we need. But that's his happiness....

What is important are relationships and a secure life. I retired early because of that LBYM motto that I have had most of my life. I splurge on travel and experiences not toys and "things".

I know that the day I die, my kids will be calling goodwill to pick up 80% of my "things".
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I did not want any of the listed. Ended up getting married, so got one on the list. What I really wanted in life is peace quiet and harmony. No did not get them either. Maybe in next reincarnation.
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What have you found you don't want, that you have been told you do?
"Why, you're too young to retire and be put out to pasture!!"

I wanted to live in a big house in Hawaii with two hot chicks, and that happened too... just not quite the way I expected it to...
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> What have you found you don't want, that you have been told you do?

I was told I wanted stuff but I found out I wanted time.
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2000 sq ft is just about big enough. Have enough trouble maintaining and cleaning what we've got now.
Yes indeed!

I remember once purchasing a magazine on luxury yachts. It was great fun looking at the glossy photos and imagining owning one and entertaining all my friends on board. And that vicarious fantasy experience did not involve insurance or maintenance hassles, having to pay for a full-time crew, etc.

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The latest technological gadgets. I'm a fairly late adopter of a lot of things. No desire for an iPhone, not much for a Wii.
I don't even know what those things are. I guess an iPhone is some sort of cell phone (I don't have a cell phone)? What is a Wii?

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A number of other things I find I still do want: I drive a BMW, MIL has a vacation house that we'll purchase from her estate (hopefully not for another 30 years, though), we'll probably get a nicer house before retiring.
I don't think it's wrong to want (a reasonable amount of) 'stuff', if you can afford it. A few carefully-selected luxuries can help make life more enjoyable.

Personally, I would like to own an airplane. I have the cash set aside and perhaps I will get one soon enough, but I'm not in any rush ... my life is full enough without it.
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>What have you found you don"t want that you have been told you do?

A few things which come to mind immediately are competitiveness, religion, wealth, (I do want "enough") status, power and stuff (I do want the necessities plus a little and freedom from wage slavery, which is the point of FIRE, isn't it?) I also want enough computer literacy to know how to quote one line of a post in my reply.
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