Originally Posted by target2019
I would go the fiftieth anniversary and be a gentleman. The next day when I left I would let brother know that I will be happy to meet up and celebrate 55th with all.
I would excuse myself from every other invitation, and go on with life, which is too short already.
I think this means much more to you. Holding on to it will make it hurt more. So you have to let go of it.
I'm actually more past it than not. Labor Day was one of the annual weekends-so that dredged it up.
Made me wonder how others would react-especially since I was guilted at first fairly heavily by the parents about needing to be flexible. Until I pointed out just how flexible I've usually been.
Appears how I'm handling is well within the norm. I am planning to continue to be courteous. If something that is mutually convenient comes up I'll entertain the idea of a get together. I'll also continue my annual get together with the parents. He can attend or not. No more rearranging commitments to make things happen. Given my calendar as I start a drug and mental health recovery community center and his increased need for convenience get togethers are unlikely for the foreseeable future!