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Old 10-04-2014, 08:30 AM   #21
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I have found that almost 100% of the time someone attempts to correct something I have said, they are wrong.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

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Old 10-04-2014, 08:46 AM   #22
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Originally Posted by Gumby View Post
All I can say is that my need to correct others has declined greatly over time.
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I tend to pick my battles carefully on this one. When you correct someone almost every time you notice they say something wrong, they pronounce something wrong or whatever, the impression you will leave is likely to be one as a smug, pedantic and arrogant person with a lot of people.
+1. Pretty much my experience and what I strive for. Where I used to feel free to correct others if I was certain they'd erred, these days I really try to refrain unless someone is going to get hurt if I don't (physically, financially, emotionally, etc.). And if I can do it privately (later), I will.

OTOH if someone is telling a story, or there's an active conversation underway, correcting grammar, pronunciation, or secondary details serves no worthwhile purpose.

It's usually not hard to tell when someone is honestly being helpful, and when another is passing their ego...

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Old 10-04-2014, 09:40 AM   #23
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All I can say is that my need to correct others has declined greatly over time.
Me too. Especially the wife.
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Old 10-04-2014, 09:48 AM   #24
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Most of the people I interact with are over 50 and their ability to change is hindered. So I don't waste the time and energy. I even ignore typos now. In fact I appreciate anyone who takes the time to type complete expressions anymore...
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Old 10-04-2014, 03:19 PM   #25
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I've done the technical editing thing, which can be engrossing. Layers of ordinary grammar are supplemented with business rules and government specifications. The editor/writer is expected to perform at an even higher level, adding subject matter expertise gained on the job.

I find myself actively pulling away from the world of order and correctness. Many mistakes do not matter, one can argue.

While researching and reading about the subject of correcting others, I found that Asperger's Syndrome is associated with a constant need to correct others. I am really wondering about that now...

I also came across this article, "Listen Instead of Correcting Others: What We Gain and Give," by*David Munger. Short quote to follow:

"I have a tendency to want to show off what I know, and in the worst cases, correct other people.
Instead of*listening and connecting*I unconsciously try to sell to others an image of myself that I wish to project. Some part of me believes that if people are impressed with me then they’ll like me and be interested in my knowledge and point of view."
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Old 10-04-2014, 11:24 PM   #26
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I try to let most things slide, except when people at work continue to use obviously incorrect terminology on projects which could lead to confusion or mistakes later. Those I correct.

Otherwise, I usually let it slide. I don't want to embarrass them, or make myself out to look superior. If it's not technical terminology as per the above, it really needs to be the linguistic equivalent of a booger hanging out their nose before I mention it.

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