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Old 07-11-2016, 08:42 AM   #21
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I was a sounding board for a brother who was going through a divorce, but this was a role reversal. His view is he's paid his dues and after let go, was ready to call it quits. His ex on the other hand has the value of work until you drop. I think they were both in the extreme. He's more carpe diem, she's more save for a rainy day. Well...as you can guess, this ended up rubbing each other the wrong way.
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Old 07-11-2016, 08:44 AM   #22
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okay read the letter - guy needs to learn how to spell
He's British. His spelling is just fine.

However, he and his wife need to communicate better.
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Old 07-11-2016, 09:27 AM   #23
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Poor baby. Wake up and stop whinging! Who told this moron life is fair.

How many people just in this group have a spouse who's unable to w*rk? IIRC more than a couple. Geeze my life would have been different if...........
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It's really not very constructive to blame another person for all of one's troubles.

"My life would have been absolutely perfect bliss, except for this one evil Satanic person who RUINED everything!!" What a crybaby.

He needs to work on developing his own initiative, establishing his goals and priorities, determining how to achieve what he wants to achieve and then actually doing so. He needs to stop blaming his wife for his own inadequacies and issues. Let her be who she is and if he doesn't like that, then the marriage is over anyway so face that and move on with life.
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Old 07-11-2016, 09:55 AM   #24
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It's really not very constructive to blame another person for all of one's troubles.

"My life would have been absolutely perfect bliss, except for this one evil Satanic person who RUINED everything!!" What a crybaby.
I agree with that part. Years ago I heard that the wife of a very hard-working co-worker got drunk at a company event and told everyone around her that she'd still have a thriving career in bond trading except that her husband's job was so demanding that she had to take up the slack at home and care for their 2 children. The company, a small consulting firm, floundered a couple of years later. Husband is in a very good job at a major company. That was 15 years ago. Funny thing... she still hasn't returned to paid employment.
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It does seem like the time for this conversation would have been when their first child was about a year old, maybe sooner. 17 years later? Not so much...
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