|
|
04-06-2018, 04:44 PM
|
#21
|
Gone but not forgotten
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Sarasota,fl.
Posts: 11,447
|
It would be nice to get an update from some of the former posters on how their life is going .I miss cute fuzzy bunny . He defended me when I first joined so He will always be my hero .Nords is also my hero because he talked me off the ledge during the meltdown .I also miss Martha and Sara and countless others .
|
|
|
|
Join the #1 Early Retirement and Financial Independence Forum Today - It's Totally Free!
Are you planning to be financially independent as early as possible so you can live life on your own terms? Discuss successful investing strategies, asset allocation models, tax strategies and other related topics in our online forum community. Our members range from young folks just starting their journey to financial independence, military retirees and even multimillionaires. No matter where you fit in you'll find that Early-Retirement.org is a great community to join. Best of all it's totally FREE!
You are currently viewing our boards as a guest so you have limited access to our community. Please take the time to register and you will gain a lot of great new features including; the ability to participate in discussions, network with our members, see fewer ads, upload photographs, create a retirement blog, send private messages and so much, much more!
|
04-06-2018, 04:57 PM
|
#22
|
Recycles dryer sheets
Join Date: Jul 2017
Posts: 101
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by Marita40
When I first joined this forum a number of years ago, I corresponded several times with a single woman about my age--from California, I believe--who was also doing a kitchen remodel. I later discovered that she died of cancer shortly thereafter. I liked her posts a lot and felt very bad about that. At the moment I can't remember her handle.
|
This is exactly the kind of reminiscence I had in mind. Although this particular story is a sad one - it's nice to know that she is remembered.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Red Badger
This thread takes me to a dark place.
When I was a young sergeant stationed in Germany (West Germany at that time), my dad and I would swap letters about once per month. Then one day, my letters started going unanswered.
....
F^ck you Alzheimer's, just f^ck you.
|
Didn't mean to take you to that dark place... but with you on that sentiment.
Of Alzheimer's, I will only quote the line supposedly inscribed on the walls of the Mauthausen concentration camp:
If there is a God, He will have to beg my forgiveness.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mdlerth
Naturally, I miss my absent friends. But the pain of loss diminishes with time. And every time, new friends have appeared.
As much as I would love still to be close with everyone I ever cared about, the universe doesn't work that way. Time and distance sunder relationships. But ultimately I'm grateful that I was able to share, however briefly, some thoughts and feelings with nice folks on the same journey.
I've felt a level of kinship with a bunch of the posters here, each in our own stage of a trip toward financial freedom. To the ones who've left, I wish them good fortune and give thanks for what they taught me. To the ones who've stayed, I say "Let's stick around a while and have a little more fun".
Finally, I look forward to the next crop of eager seekers who will join tomorrow and next week and next year. I anticipate there will be plenty of good times here in the future. Maybe eventually somebody will come up with the definitive best age to claim SS/CPP! How awesome would that be?
|
I always so enjoy your reflective and wise comments. The phrasing and thought patterns, and most of all the optimism with a bit of twinkle in the eye, remind me of a good friend of mine, now in his 80s. It's good to retain some of that perspective, leavened with humor, if we can.
|
|
|
04-06-2018, 07:27 PM
|
#23
|
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Jan 2017
Location: Hog Mountian
Posts: 2,077
|
TimeMeasure.
I'm fine with your post.
My day to wander off is as certain as taxes, right?
My dad was in WWll and began his combat tour at Guadalcanal. I often joke that with his 8th grade education, he had an undergrad in climate change and economics (dust bowl and great depression), and a masters in conflict resolution with international travel (WWll).
Alzheimer's harvested his mind in his 60's and his body in his 70's. I just wasn't ready to lose my fishing pal so soon.
And yeah, I wonder what happened to BCG.
And, upon reflection, it wasn't so dark - a lot of good memories - just have to dig a little deeper for them.
__________________
Never let yesterday use up too much of today.
W. Rogers
|
|
|
04-06-2018, 07:50 PM
|
#24
|
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: May 2008
Location: No fixed abode
Posts: 8,765
|
I worry a bit about certain posters, in particular imoldernu. The ones with age or health related issues that just go away. I also miss a few older poster like Martha and Lazygood4nuthinbum, who always had interesting POVs. And it always makes me happy when Uncle Mick pops back up.
On the other hand, I've gotten pissed off a few times, either at other posters or at getting modded, and gone away for a little while. Sadly, nobody ever noticed.
By the way, those of you that miss Sarah, she's doing fine. She seems to do a lot of traveling in her spare time, and her husband is still doing insane Adventurist stuff.
__________________
"Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement." - Anonymous (not Will Rogers or Sam Clemens)
DW and I - FIREd at 50 (7/06), living off assets
|
|
|
04-06-2018, 08:24 PM
|
#25
|
Moderator
Join Date: Jul 2017
Posts: 5,765
|
I liked Blue Collar Guy. He had a sense of humor AND was good to his mom. I was also familiar with his neighborhood, and my DF, and DGF were also NYCPD. With imolderthanu I recall when I was lurking he went missing for a few months. (I kept my eyes peeled for him and was glad to see him back, although he hasn't posted much recently.) Senator also disappeared for a while after her retired, and eventually came back. He seems to be off again. Anyway, he made me understand that I would NOT be a good landlord.
__________________
Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.
|
|
|
04-06-2018, 08:42 PM
|
#26
|
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Texas
Posts: 3,024
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by kcowan
I think BCG made too many posts like "Me too" that did not add to the forum content. He treated it like a conversation. When he did contribute, I thought he added value though.
The two I know that left this year are both Canadian. And one last year. Meadbh, Danmar and Altared. I think they all contributed and enjoyed their participation. But eventually they found the censorship stifling. Meadbh tells why the US is not welcoming for Canadians and the thread gets shut. WTF? Sojourner mentions insular? I saw nothing but facts being discussed.
Are the overlords so sensitive that a little dose of reality does not work for them? Members think BMW owners are extravagant. Is anything beyond a Toyota unacceptable?
|
+1 on BCG.
I wondered about Danmar. I always appreciated his thoughtful points of view and abundant financial expertise. Haven't seen him post in a while and wondered if something happened. I don't follow this forum daily... more like every 2 or 3 days, and then just for topics that still interest me. So I miss a lot and don't always follow the emotional ebb and flow that sometimes result in a member calling it quits.
There have been multiple times when I stopped reading the forum for a few months, usually just because there was something very time-consuming going on in my life. But like COcheesehead said, "the topics here are just too relevant to my life right now." So I always gravitate back to my every 2 or 3 day habit.
There have been several times when I thought the moderation was a bit heavy-handed. But then again, one of the things that keeps bringing me back here is how civil the discussion is compared to many online forums. I can only imagine the time, effort, and coordination that go into moderating a forum like this. So on balance, I don't have any complaints. But I also don't blame someone for calling it quits when they feel the line has been crossed.
__________________
Retired at 52 in July 2013. On to better things...
AA: 85/15 WR: 2.7% SI: 2 pensions, SS later
|
|
|
04-06-2018, 10:24 PM
|
#27
|
Moderator
Join Date: Jul 2017
Posts: 5,765
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cobra9777
+1 on BCG.
I wondered about Danmar. I always appreciated his thoughtful points of view and abundant financial expertise. Haven't seen him post in a while and wondered if something happened. I don't follow this forum daily... more like every 2 or 3 days, and then just for topics that still interest me. So I miss a lot and don't always follow the emotional ebb and flow that sometimes result in a member calling it quits.
|
With regard to Danmar, it was my impression he was a bit exacerbated by what he perceived was a petty thread, and wrote something to the effect that he was going to take a hiatus. I'm not saying this is accurate, it was my impression. Maybe he'll come back eventually and tell us about his new smile.
__________________
Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.
|
|
|
04-06-2018, 10:36 PM
|
#28
|
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 1,608
|
One of our members from several years ago sadly passed away. I remember her talking about her retirement home and planning to remodel it. She moved up her retirement plans after finding out she had cancer. Her er.org username was kyounge1956.
Younge, Karen Elizabeth – Page 3603504976 – Funeral Alternatives of Washington
|
|
|
04-06-2018, 10:56 PM
|
#29
|
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 35,712
|
Yes, I remember kyounge and her story. It was very sad that she developed cancer right when her ER plan was about to realize. I knew that bad things happened when she disappeared after posting that her cancer had reached Stage IV. From her posts, I felt that she was a kind soul.
Thanks for sharing her obituary.
__________________
"Old age is the most unexpected of all things that happen to a man" -- Leon Trotsky (1879-1940)
"Those Who Can Make You Believe Absurdities Can Make You Commit Atrocities" - Voltaire (1694-1778)
|
|
|
04-06-2018, 11:03 PM
|
#30
|
Moderator
Join Date: Jul 2017
Posts: 5,765
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by powerplay
|
She seemed like a lovely person.
__________________
Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 01:57 AM
|
#31
|
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Jun 2016
Posts: 4,663
|
I checked on Danmar because I missed his posts. He is fine, just taking a hiatus. He said he may come back at some point.
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 03:48 AM
|
#32
|
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: May 2011
Location: St. Paul
Posts: 1,847
|
Yes, it was indeed kyounge that I was remembering!
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 06:27 AM
|
#33
|
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Washington, DC
Posts: 11,327
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by harley
I worry a bit about certain posters, in particular imoldernu. The ones with age or health related issues that just go away. I also miss a few older poster like Martha and Lazygood4nuthinbum, who always had interesting POVs. And it always makes me happy when Uncle Mick pops back up.
|
It is distressing to suddenly realize you haven't seen anything from someone whose posts you have enjoyed for years. Unfortunately it will happen more and more as we all age out. I met Lasygoood4nuthinbum here in DC around 2006 or 2007. Great guy. Then he simply disappeared during the crash. I worry that he got wiped out when he couldn't sell his deceased mother's house but it looks like we will never know what happened.
__________________
Idleness is fatal only to the mediocre -- Albert Camus
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 06:32 AM
|
#34
|
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 8,368
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by MarieIG
it was my impression he was a bit exacerbated
|
Not only that, but perhaps exasperated too?
__________________
"Exit, pursued by a bear."
The Winter's Tale, William Shakespeare
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 06:40 AM
|
#35
|
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Sep 2012
Posts: 11,702
|
Nords pops back every now and then. He had a nice series about his kitchen/living area remodel last fall.
I was once on a thread that got shut right after my post. I took about a 1 week break. It can hurt a bit. I saw my post as "facts," but after reading the thread, I realized I was just stoking a burning fire. I just stay away from those topics... OK, except for maybe self driving cars. Thread not shut yet.
I am sad to see many non-Americans leave or never start. That seems to be a continuing trend. Sadly, the health care topic ticks people off everywhere and it is just turning into a minefield when discussing it. Too bad.
Although I'd love to spend time on Facebook with my friends and family, it has become "PreachBook" to the point I've given up. This forum of anonymous friends is a respite from all the "fact trading" going on elsewhere. (Yes, I say that sarcastically.) The unfortunate side effect is that the mods have a short leash.
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 06:55 AM
|
#36
|
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Oct 2014
Posts: 1,677
|
I sometimes wonder what happened to freebird5825. She was active on the forum when I joined in 2015, and I remember her because she lived in CNY (where I grew up).
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 08:20 AM
|
#37
|
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Jan 2018
Location: Tampa
Posts: 11,298
|
Also miss the prolific postings of BCG. Made me smile a lot and seemed like a regular guy (if 6'6'' and 300+ can be regular).
__________________
TGIM
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 08:39 AM
|
#38
|
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Mar 2011
Posts: 8,409
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by JoeWras
Although I'd love to spend time on Facebook with my friends and family, it has become "PreachBook" to the point I've given up. This forum of anonymous friends is a respite from all the "fact trading" going on elsewhere. (Yes, I say that sarcastically.) The unfortunate side effect is that the mods have a short leash.
|
The mods here have a tough job but I'm forever grateful for their effort.
We tend to become 'friends' here and sometimes think we can say things 'among friends' not realizing that there IS a line on this forum that should never be crossed in order to maintain a civil place to actually learn things.
The internet is full, full, full of discussion forums that are absolute horror shows. I don't want to see us go there.
Having said that, I do miss some people who were good contributors and just stopped posting. Not all who 'went travelling' did so against their will.
I think it'd be hard to track them down and/or discover why or what became of them.
__________________
Living well is the best revenge!
Retired @ 52 in 2005
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 08:44 AM
|
#39
|
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Dec 2008
Posts: 12,654
|
Imoldernu pops up now and then, under another handle, cheerleading for his beloved CCRC on city-data's retirement forum. I visit that forum now and then, but rarely post - the women there can be such biddies, and I dislike having them run at me and other posters, waving their wings and clucking.
Thanks for the update on Sarah.
Quote:
Originally Posted by harley
I worry a bit about certain posters, in particular imoldernu. The ones with age or health related issues that just go away. I also miss a few older poster like Martha and Lazygood4nuthinbum, who always had interesting POVs. And it always makes me happy when Uncle Mick pops back up.
|
__________________
If you understood everything I say, you'd be me ~ Miles Davis
'There is only one success to be able to spend your life in your own way. Christopher Morley.
Even a blind clock finds an acorn twice a day.
|
|
|
04-07-2018, 08:45 AM
|
#40
|
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Dec 2008
Posts: 12,654
|
I miss Vincent and Notmuchlonger. Cuppajoe and Martha. Bbbami (I know she's around b/c we PM sometimes).
__________________
If you understood everything I say, you'd be me ~ Miles Davis
'There is only one success to be able to spend your life in your own way. Christopher Morley.
Even a blind clock finds an acorn twice a day.
|
|
|
|
|
Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
|
|
Thread Tools |
|
Display Modes |
Linear Mode
|
Posting Rules
|
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
HTML code is Off
|
|
|
|
» Recent Threads
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
» Quick Links
|
|
|