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Old 11-24-2012, 02:45 PM   #1
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Woman dies after 4 decades in a coma

The devotion of this family was amazing. I would not want to be kept alive like this. However, I wonder how I'd handle a loved one in this situation. Good reason to make sure everyone clearly states their wishes.

Edwarda O’Bara, who spent 4 decades in a coma, dies at 59 - Obituaries - Miami-Dade - MiamiHerald.com
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Old 11-24-2012, 04:45 PM   #2
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I saw this too. Brought tears to my eyes. No parent should go through this.

+1 re: will and advanced directives.
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That is very sad. She was only 17 when she fell ill, according to the article. I doubt many teenagers have even thought about advance directives and end-of-life issues.
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I saw this too. Brought tears to my eyes. No parent should go through this.

+1 re: will and advanced directives.
Given your profession, I'm certain you've seen situations like this. Not only seen them, but been the bearer of bad news to the loved ones. Yes, a will and advanced directives are very important. I cried too.
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The devotion of this family was amazing. I would not want to be kept alive like this. However, I wonder how I'd handle a loved one in this situation. Good reason to make sure everyone clearly states their wishes.

Edwarda O’Bara, who spent 4 decades in a coma, dies at 59 - Obituaries - Miami-Dade - MiamiHerald.com
I totally agree with you about the family members, and have nothing but admiration for both mother and sister!

I'm not sure, though, how accurate it is to think of this as "being kept alive". It appears from the photo in the article that Edwarda was able to breathe on her own. No respirator or oxygen tube is visible. She couldn't feed herself of course, but wouldn't withholding food and water from a person who is unable to feed herself, or allowing bedsores and infection to take their course with someone who can't move herself, be manslaughter, if not homicide?
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Yes. I read this too. Quite sad, and heroic of the family.

Also, in the news about the former boxer who just died today (taken off life support) after being shot. The family had to decide (some wanted to wait, others no to let him pass away).

I'm not sure what to think about comatose patients as that is so delicate. I read not long ago that with the help of and MRI, doctors were able to communicate with yes/no responses with a comatose patient. Fascinating, and makes one think deeper about the definition of life and death.
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Very sad story. I remember reading about it a few years ago also. Don't know what is the answer for situations like this.
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