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DH went back to work after 6 months of retirement. The last couple companies he worked for had social events during, or right after workday with no expectation of spouse participation. DH just forwarded an email invite to local employees for Christmas dinner on a Saturday evening at the bosses’ home.
This troubles me on several levels. One, he already spends 5 days a week, all day with these guys. Not counting the extra work he has to occasionally do on weekends. These are work colleagues, not personal friends (and likely, never will be). I’d rather spend the evening with our own family and friends. “Christmas” has a lot of religious aspects to it so this work-related dinner doesn’t seem to me to be non-secular and inclusive. A lot of the employees are out of state and work remotely. How will they feel knowing the business owners invited the local team and spouses to their home knowing they can’t attend.
I’ve always had very negative feelings about bosses who think they are doing their staff/employees a favor by taking them from their loved ones, even more than the job already requires, by hosting these type events during non-working hours.
Finally, while he wants to continue to work (not because we need the $), I don’t think I should have to be subjected to this type event with all the fake posturing, smiles, small talk, etc. to be a supportive partner when that’s part of what I left behind (joyfully) when I retired.
I’d like to find a way to decline that is honest and respectful to DH. He is a social butterfly. I am not.
Am I being unreasonable/cranky/bah humbug in feeling this way?
Thanks,
INTJ
This troubles me on several levels. One, he already spends 5 days a week, all day with these guys. Not counting the extra work he has to occasionally do on weekends. These are work colleagues, not personal friends (and likely, never will be). I’d rather spend the evening with our own family and friends. “Christmas” has a lot of religious aspects to it so this work-related dinner doesn’t seem to me to be non-secular and inclusive. A lot of the employees are out of state and work remotely. How will they feel knowing the business owners invited the local team and spouses to their home knowing they can’t attend.
I’ve always had very negative feelings about bosses who think they are doing their staff/employees a favor by taking them from their loved ones, even more than the job already requires, by hosting these type events during non-working hours.
Finally, while he wants to continue to work (not because we need the $), I don’t think I should have to be subjected to this type event with all the fake posturing, smiles, small talk, etc. to be a supportive partner when that’s part of what I left behind (joyfully) when I retired.
I’d like to find a way to decline that is honest and respectful to DH. He is a social butterfly. I am not.
Am I being unreasonable/cranky/bah humbug in feeling this way?
Thanks,
INTJ