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WSJ article Couples Dating
11-03-2009, 03:11 PM
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I found this article to be quite intriguing and recall how hard it is for most of us interested in FIRE to find like-minded folks as friends.
The website mentioned in the article, called Kupple, was very interesting and I went through the whole list of SC couples just to see what was "out there".
Thought others might like to read the article. Would you ever resort to "couple dating" to meet like-minded folks?
Couples Dating: Frustrations of Finding a Good Match - WSJ.com
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11-03-2009, 03:59 PM
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I would not be interested in meeting like minded folks. I enjoy making friendships or acquaintances with people who think differently than me.
But for someone who is interested in finding like minded people. Why not seems like a good idea. 
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11-03-2009, 04:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Notmuchlonger
I would not be interested in meeting like minded folks. I enjoy making friendships or acquaintances with people who think differently than me.
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We think exactly alike. Too bad we can never be friends! 
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11-03-2009, 07:59 PM
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No we dont think exactly alike!
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11-04-2009, 06:19 PM
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Great article and right on the mark.
dh2b and I have figured out that he and I need to start new "couple" friendships from scratch. People from my former life (married) still have a subconscious mental block about me starting anew after my husband passed.
dh2b is divorced, so he lost all those friends from before except for a tried and true buddy.
But we are doing just fine, little by little.
Update: I just read Moemg's post #20. She knows.
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11-03-2009, 04:03 PM
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The tv show, "Queen of Kings," had a couple shows about this very thing as they are supposedly a younger childless couple looking for other DINKS to play with. Pretty funny if you can catch the old re-runs you can find out how the husband gets rid of couples he doesn't like: i.e., he pulls up his shirt and asks them to assess his chest which is somewhere over his humungo belly while rubbing his nipples! Naturally, he grosses the other couple out and they bolt away so fast as they can.
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11-03-2009, 04:56 PM
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Interesting. I hadn't considered that some people need a more formal method of acquiring and forming relationships with other couples. We don't have a lot of close friends/acquaintances, but we get together fairly regularly (once every month or two) with probably 4-5 couples or single people. It is usually 1 couple or person at a time - more like a "date" per the article. I'd say virtually all of our social relationships have been formed through work or professional contacts of some sort. But I think we are very choosy about friends/acquaintances.
Excessive sports talk is a rapid deal breaker for us. It is ok as initial small talk, but if a person is one-dimensional to the extent that everything relates back to sports, the game, favorite games, favorite plays, etc., then our relationship will quickly end. Otherwise I think we are pretty open relationship-wise, and have a fairly diverse cross-section of friends/acquaintances.
I had never really thought that there would be the politics/angst behind "couples dating". Say the husband really likes the other couple but the wife can't stand them. I guess I try to appreciate the good in each individual, and enjoy talking to whomever will engage in conversation. I guess I'm always ready for dinner, parties, light drinking, conversation, etc.
Sarah, too bad you guys are so far away, otherwise we could "couple date"! I may corrupt your DH though, so it may not work out too well...
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11-03-2009, 08:28 PM
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Oh, I think we could use some upscaling on our liquor choices that maybe you could help us with! 
I think it would be especially helpful for folks that have moved to a new place in retirement that don't play golf or do any of the "traditional" retirement things. Whereas my sister who just moved up to Vermont has a ready access to other couples with young children, these folks would not have such an entry to social functions.
Interesting, though. And sometimes I think I'd like to trade in my friends for some new ones! 
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11-03-2009, 10:28 PM
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I don't know. I'm usually a bottom shelf liquor buyer unless I can get the top shelf stuff for less than the bottom shelf stuff. The art is in mixing and serving it, not paying up for questionable improvement in quality.
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11-03-2009, 06:36 PM
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Thought this was a swingers website for a second.
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11-03-2009, 07:07 PM
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11-03-2009, 08:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Sarah in SC
Thought others might like to read the article. Would you ever resort to "couple dating" to meet like-minded folks?
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Interesting article. Not sure we'd ever resort to this approach, but we did join a group for people without children in order to expand our social contacts - and have since become very good friends with 3 other couples. We no longer live near each other, but often meet up for vacations - at least once a year.
We have had significant trouble making friends where we currently live. It is part of the reason we are about to move again...that's for another thread!
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11-03-2009, 09:31 PM
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That article is a hoot and a half...boy, can I relate. 
When we were younger, we had quite a few 'couple' friendships. The things we all had in common were music, dancing and drinking. I don't think any of us ever got annoyed with each other...because, well...booze was involved.
As time has gone by, we have a few friendships; however most of them are scattered about the country. We keep in touch through e-mails, occasionally visit and spend a couple of days with them and have a blast.
As I get older, I prefer to associate with others less. I suppose I like a night out on the town with others...at my own convenience. Yep, I'm getting stodgy in my old age....
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11-04-2009, 10:50 AM
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Fuego you are going to LOVE Dr. Thomas Stanley's new book called Stop Acting Rich. It is all about how "aspirationals" buy fancy liquor and "real" millionaires go for the bottom shelf stuff--or worse, what Dr. Stanley calls the "euphemistically named party-section of the liquor store".
I am halfway through it and howling over the liquor (and wine) stories.
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11-04-2009, 10:55 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Sarah in SC
Fuego you are going to LOVE Dr. Thomas Stanley's new book called Stop Acting Rich. It is all about how "aspirationals" buy fancy liquor and "real" millionaires go for the bottom shelf stuff--or worse, what Dr. Stanley calls the "euphemistically named party-section of the liquor store".
I am halfway through it and howling over the liquor (and wine) stories. |
I knew a multi-millionaire who drank white Ripple every day for lunch, and bought it by the case. (I knew another who was delighted with his $20 Timex watch, wore it all the time, and loved showing its features to everybody, even though he owned several Rolexes.) Sounds like an enjoyable read.
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11-04-2009, 11:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Sarah in SC
Fuego you are going to LOVE Dr. Thomas Stanley's new book called Stop Acting Rich. It is all about how "aspirationals" buy fancy liquor and "real" millionaires go for the bottom shelf stuff--or worse, what Dr. Stanley calls the "euphemistically named party-section of the liquor store".
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Man, I'll be looking for it at my library in a few months...
Party section = the bottom shelf where my Aristocrat, Traveler's Club, etc reside? I guess it is true, we do buy a lot of this stuff for parties.
Our liquor store is always interesting. It is the nicest one in the county because it is brand new. And right on a major north-south highway on the edge of the downtown area (sort of). So we get a mix of out of town preppy suburbanites looking for the drink, office workers from the adjacent office park (I guess I would fall in this category), and completely washed up homeless-looking bums and prostitutes and other denizens of the ghetto. I have noticed the luxury of the liquor purchased is inversely proportional to the perceived wealth of the clientele.
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11-04-2009, 08:24 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Sarah in SC
Fuego you are going to LOVE Dr. Thomas Stanley's new book called Stop Acting Rich. It is all about how "aspirationals" buy fancy liquor and "real" millionaires go for the bottom shelf stuff--or worse, what Dr. Stanley calls the "euphemistically named party-section of the liquor store".
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Just a point. If you buy quality liquor you save all that money on mixers. Just an occasional ice cube for me.
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11-10-2009, 12:15 PM
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I had a sad reflection last night when I realized the blue martini mixer cost exactly the same per unit as the vodka I was mixing it with. $5 per 750 ml.
And in the spirit of the kid/kid-free dichotomy - I taught my 4 year old daughter how to mix mommy's blue raspberry martini last night. "Math". That little trick should endear us to the kidded AND kid-free couples.
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11-10-2009, 02:28 PM
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I had a sad reflection last night when I realized the blue martini mixer cost exactly the same per unit as the vodka I was mixing it with. $5 per 750 ml.
And in the spirit of the kid/kid-free dichotomy - I taught my 4 year old daughter how to mix mommy's blue raspberry martini last night. "Math". That little trick should endear us to the kidded AND kid-free couples. |
mix the vodka with cherry juice (very jummy martini) and watch your uric acid blood levels drop.
Cherry Juice Gout - Benefits of Cherry Juice
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11-04-2009, 11:11 AM
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How come couples dating devolved into buying liquor?
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