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Old 12-24-2015, 12:47 PM   #21
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I'm reading this thread with a lot of trepidation. I have a 15 year old and 13 year old. The 15 year old asked about getting his permit this coming summer (when he'll be 15.5). I told him it would happen only if he has excellent grades and a good attitude.

Sure it's a pain to drive him everywhere - but he just doesn't seem responsible enough.
House Rule: "As & Bs or no keys". Son (now 24), being the one to push any boundary, tried this one. He did not get his license until 18. He has been a good driver since then. He and his friends always had a designated driver who did not drink when they went out for the night.

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Old 12-24-2015, 01:14 PM   #22
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I don't have any kids but I can tell what worked for me. If I broke anything on the car, I fixed it. That doesn't mean paying for someone else to do it, that means I got underneath or under the hood in whatever the weather was and swung the wrenches myself.

Dad wasn't as dumb as I thought he was.

I heard the call to do nothing. So I answered it.
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Old 12-26-2015, 01:21 AM   #25
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When my sons got their licenses at 16, I ruled them. No matter how convoluted my requests, they were immediately granted in order to gain my permission to take the car out.
The first thing I did was get a beater 1965 4 door sedan. I don't know what the equivalent is today, but this was around 1980's and there was no way either of them was going to drive in '65 Mustang. I paid around $500 for it and made them learn how to make it into a safe car. We replaced brakes, tuned it up, flush/fill the antifreeze, etc. They knew how to change a flat tire! You would be amazed how many today haven't a clue how to change a flat, even knowing how to pull over if there's a flat and get safe first. There's lots more to driving a car than just being the pilot. Knowing what to do when the unexpected happens and knowing how to identify a problem are as important as knowing the rules of the road.

My wife never learned those things. She has been known to drive a car until the metal from the brake backings are gone, not just the brake pads, but the metal behind those!! When asked, she just said that the car 'smelled' funny when braking and made a bad noise so she turned up the radio and kept the windows rolled up. I discovered there was a problem when I noticed brakfluid leaking on the garage floor. I now do all the routine service on her car including inspections and testing driving regularly.
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Yesterday my 16 year old, high school junior son got his drivers license...
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Yesterday my 16 year old, high school junior son got his drivers license...

Originally Posted by RE2Boys View Post
I wonder if the driving instructor you used is legitimate. Per the PA website, an under 18 age driver must have his learner's permit for a minimum of six months and you, as the parent, must certify that the candidate has had 65 hours of road experience, to include driving at night and in inclement weather.
I should have been more specific: the driving instructions came after he had driven with her, I or both of us for the past 6 months.

An inauspicious start -
Early on with my son at the wheel we pulled up to a intersection and were making a right turn and my son stopped to yield for traffic and BAM and over anxious driver plowed into the back of my car. The police wrote it up as entirely the other guys fault and even chastised him about following to close. His insurance company footed the bill for the repairs. Even though clearly not his fault my son's and our confidence was shaken by the incident.

Many of the local roads here are narrow, hilly, curvy and there's lots of trees which cut down on visibility. The often taken route to the HS for evening events is particularly nasty: being cut into a hill with drop off on one side. Many trees that line the road show the scars from the buses and others. Even the most experienced driver is challenged and doesn't like the road. Our novice driver would make me and the Mrs. very nervous there.

Lately the crazy too warm for Nov/Dec has lead to ground fog and hard to defeat foggy windows which adds to our anxiety about our new driver. Two nights ago I was driving and both the Mrs and I just couldn't seem to defeat those foggy windows on a drizzly night. Yeah I suppose it is better than snow or worse yet ice.

We went the instructor route as a precaution and to make sure someone else said he was ready.

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That is one of the weird things about having teenagers... you learn that there is only so much you can control. We never had a problem but you'll always worry about things that you can't control. Lay down a sensible set of ground rule and hope for the best.

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