Orchidflower
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I have time now and am in my hometown eldercaring an aging parent, so, for the first time in my adult life, I have the time and computer to sit down and track just a few people I lost contact with since high school (that is a tad over 40 years ago!). This has been really interesting. I find I have about a 60% positive/40% no response at all ratio.
(I must tell you that I worked pretty much all the time for the past 40, never went to a high school reunion, never visited anyone hardly...just worked....the American way for the big, fat American dream..ha! However, I was relatively popular in school and never had a beef with any relatives that I know of.)
Even more interesting is finding out who wants to have a relationship (even if it just stays at email level) and who simply has no interest.
Some good childhood friends just have no interest, others are delighted and want to get together asap. Some relatives either write the shortest note they can, and other relatives want to know everything about my life and share theirs.
One old beau from when I was just 15, and our mothers were associates, has written me two short notes and each time asked, "Where are you? What are you up to?" What is with that? I answered him before, so did he not read that long email? Frustrating. I just cannot figure that one out, but am sitting back now and letting him come to me if he wants to continue writing. I've written two informative emails, so that is my quota.
So, what I was wondering is: Has anyone else on this board ever attempted to reconnect with people they have not seen or heard from since, say, high school? What has been your experience with it? It's been a fascinating ride to try and reconnect, and a really interesting study of human nature, that's for sure. People...go figure
(The ones that I was able to get together with was a blast, tho! And so worth the time I took digging them up!)
(I must tell you that I worked pretty much all the time for the past 40, never went to a high school reunion, never visited anyone hardly...just worked....the American way for the big, fat American dream..ha! However, I was relatively popular in school and never had a beef with any relatives that I know of.)
Even more interesting is finding out who wants to have a relationship (even if it just stays at email level) and who simply has no interest.
Some good childhood friends just have no interest, others are delighted and want to get together asap. Some relatives either write the shortest note they can, and other relatives want to know everything about my life and share theirs.
One old beau from when I was just 15, and our mothers were associates, has written me two short notes and each time asked, "Where are you? What are you up to?" What is with that? I answered him before, so did he not read that long email? Frustrating. I just cannot figure that one out, but am sitting back now and letting him come to me if he wants to continue writing. I've written two informative emails, so that is my quota.
So, what I was wondering is: Has anyone else on this board ever attempted to reconnect with people they have not seen or heard from since, say, high school? What has been your experience with it? It's been a fascinating ride to try and reconnect, and a really interesting study of human nature, that's for sure. People...go figure
(The ones that I was able to get together with was a blast, tho! And so worth the time I took digging them up!)