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Old 07-02-2010, 11:22 AM   #61
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I'm beginning to think you might figure out some way to muddle through...
Sure, it's disappointing but hardly the end of the world... But can I handle to be known as the unemployed husband of Mrs. Big Shot? With some getting used to, I'm sure I could manage to live with my shame...
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Sure, it's disappointing but hardly the end of the world... But can I handle to be known as the unemployed husband of Mrs. Big Shot? With some getting used to, I'm sure I could manage to live with my shame...
We all must make sacrifices.
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Sure, it's disappointing but hardly the end of the world... But can I handle to be known as the unemployed husband of Mrs. Big Shot? With some getting used to, I'm sure I could manage to live with my shame...
In these difficult economic times, you must pull yourself together and present a facade of stability for your wife. You must be the rock upon which she leans for moral support. It will be hard on you, but you have to muster the strength.
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Sure, it's disappointing but hardly the end of the world... But can I handle to be known as the unemployed husband of Mrs. Big Shot? With some getting used to, I'm sure I could manage to live with my shame...
I would have no such shame, and I know that after the first 18 years of our marriage where I put up with constant full-time Megacorp crap as DW reinvented herself, tried new things and took time off to pursue her interests, she wants to be able to return the favor for me. If I do wind up becoming a "preacher's wife" I'll probably milk my Megacorp gig for a few more years, save almost all of the income from it and then ride off into the sunset if I'm laid off or hit my early 50s, whichever comes first...
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Sorry to hear about the job FD...

Just the fact that you love to bake bread would be more than enough for me to keep you in the dough....

Sorry...bad pun...but I had to keep it clean.

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I would have no such shame, and I know that after the first 18 years of our marriage where I put up with constant full-time Megacorp crap as DW reinvented herself, tried new things and took time off to pursue her interests, she wants to be able to return the favor for me. If I do wind up becoming a "preacher's wife" I'll probably milk my Megacorp gig for a few more years, save almost all of the income from it and then ride off into the sunset if I'm laid off or hit my early 50s, whichever comes first...

I don't quite know what I would call myself ("unemployed", "kept man", "stay at home husband", "bum", "loser"?), but apparently not "retired":

Do people actually retire early?
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I don't quite know what I would call myself ("unemployed", "kept man", "stay at home husband", "bum", "loser"?), but apparently not "retired":

Do people actually retire early?
How 'bout "Lucky"....?
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How 'bout "Lucky"....?
"Studmuffin" works for me.
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I don't quite know what I would call myself ("unemployed", "kept man", "stay at home husband", "bum", "loser"?), but apparently not "retired":

Do people actually retire early?
Financially independent gigolo?
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Yep, a FIG...
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Yep, a FIG...
Or a FFIG (French Financially Independent Gigolo)
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Sorry about your job loss but I am sure you & your wife will work it out . I think the days of stigma about guys staying home and women being the bread winners are long gone . Nowadays it's whatever the two of you work out ! After all you are a team !
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I think the days of stigma about guys staying home and women being the bread winners are long gone .
I don't think so. It's a bit better than it used to be, but it's still not all that acceptable for a man not be bringing home the bacon, especially when his wife still has to do so. If we reach a point where my wife is still working when I hang it up, this is a concern of mine -- that people will see me as a slacking, lazy ne'er-do-well (especially if we have to move out of town).
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Sorry about your job loss but I am sure you & your wife will work it out . I think the days of stigma about guys staying home and women being the bread winners are long gone . Nowadays it's whatever the two of you work out ! After all you are a team !
Yeah...after thinking about it, I believe Mr and Mrs FIREdreamer should both be called 'Lucky' because they have each other.
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I don't quite know what I would call myself ("unemployed", "kept man", "stay at home husband", "bum", "loser"?), but apparently not "retired":

Do people actually retire early?
Whoops, my bad. I actually meant men who choose this path, not those who are dealt it by fate. But I see your point.

You are quite likely good enough in bed that she will ignore medium quality house work and other unimportant rubbish like that. And remember to bath and shave daily, use adequate deodorant, comb your hair and keep a generally attractive appearance.



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Or a FFIG (French Financially Independent Gigolo)
A French FIG, shouldn't it be a FIGUE?
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It may not be a bad thing for one of the couple to stop working first.

For us, having our income dwindling over a few years, first by my start-up failing, and then my wife's quitting her job, and me working only very sporadic part-time now, it eases our ER process. It would be a big shock to us if our earned income dropped immediately to zero. But then, despite being LBYM'ers we are cavalier towards budgeting compared to most people here.

I am just too lazy to keep track of everything, and prefer to just look at the bottom line to see if we are still OK (and if we are not, well, I'll just have to get off my butt and put in some more hours ).
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