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I pushed the property management company again about letting me out of my lease and they again said ...NO! I thought I had six months on my lease, but instead it is eight months. My rent is about $2500.00 a month so I will be paying about $20,000 to pay off the lease. If I were to move to a place like Richmond I could move into a nice one bedroom for about $800 a month, so could have saved $13,600 in the next eight month and forward.
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Until I can get away from my overpriced apartment, my life is on hold.
You can get away. Find another place, pack up the car, and drive off.
Unless there is something weird in the governing law, the nolo link given earlier indicates Virginia follows the general rule that the landlord is obligated to mitigate its damages and relet the apartment. If they relet quickly, they may be obligated to refund any deposit and if the unit and complex is attractive, they most likely are going to relet well before 8 months.