Calico
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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- Apr 16, 2012
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Love the stories, I keep rereading to get more peace on letting her go. Ignoring her calls/texts was hard at first but easier now with each passing day. A new habit, like frugality once was
She threw me a curve ball last night but I have not and will not respond. 2 weeks ago she told me she has too many exams the last weekend in April for me to come down. She lives in San Diego (I'm in San Jose) and she texted me last night asking if she could drop by. I think she's staying at her ex-boss's and he flew her up here. Now I'm just hoping she doesn't drop by uninvited.
As I look more and more, I see her lacking character. I should've let her go a long time ago, I saw the character flaws scattered about, but I made every rationalization as I liked her a lot.
Again I really appreciate everyone here helping me see her more clearly. And also seeing the massive variety of people I can meet out there and which lend themselves towards financial independence.
Apparently it is sinking in on her end that she lost a good thing by losing you.
Stay strong, keep ignoring the texts, and I agree - you DO NOT have to answer the door. You really dodged a bullet here.
Trust me, in very short order she will latch onto the first guy she can find who is willing to pay her way.
You are still very young, and have plenty of time to find the right person to share your life with. You will know her when you find her - she will be interested in you, and not your bank account. In fact, she will be busy building her own bank account!
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