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Each of my children get the same total amount, and that amount is spread across their family 11 29.73%
I spend so much per adult, DIL/SIL, and grandchild, regardless if one of my kids has one child or five 10 27.03%
I write a check of the same anount ot each of my kids, and they do as they wish with it. 5 13.51%
I do not celebrate Christmas and/or we do not gift exchanges. 7 18.92%
It varies and depends if they have been naughty or nice this year! 4 10.81%
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Old 12-02-2011, 12:49 PM   #21
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So if I send someone a $20 gift card and I receive same in return, something meaningful has occurred? I guess I just don't get it.
Well, an equal exchange of gift cards isn't exciting, but sometimes it's the only practical alternative.

(Very) occasionally, I get a gift that is something that I would not have thought of getting for myself, and I totally enjoy it. Now that is high-level (and rare) gift giving.

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I think this video pretty well illustrates what the purpose of gifting giving is and the fears inherent in such decisions. Some people try to avoid due to the first part as much as possible. Many truly enjoy risking for the chance of the outcome at the end of the video
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Old 12-03-2011, 07:48 PM   #22
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I donate ~$10K in (mostly) cash to organizations and individuals throughout the year. This year a few folks got the 4# mixed chocolate box (Esther Price if you want some really good stuff).

But yes I'm a curmudgeon and a Scrooge because I don't see the point in exchanging crap for no apparent reason; and I have no contact at all with folks I am biologically related to.

I also hit blood donation #177 in November.

I'll stop before I get moderated.
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Old 12-03-2011, 09:55 PM   #23
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I donate ~$10K in (mostly) cash to organizations and individuals throughout the year. This year a few folks got the 4# mixed chocolate box (Esther Price if you want some really good stuff).

But yes I'm a curmudgeon and a Scrooge because I don't see the point in exchanging crap for no apparent reason; and I have no contact at all with folks I am biologically related to.

At $10 K you are certainly not a Scrooge . None of us came near this amount . We just choose to spend ours on our adult kids . Different strokes for different folks !
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Nothing - I am cheap.
I have changed my mind and spent more than $600 for my two-adult daughters.
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Generally we don't exchange gifts since everyone already has enough "stuff" and in fact many are making progress in shedding it. Although this year the hosts of the family party are going to do a "gift exchange" of gag gifts, the rule is nothing over $20.

I kinda like the idea of a bag of coal for that party.

Side note: DW had never heard that if one was a "naughty" child instead of a "nice" one then Santa left a lump of coal in one's stocking. That's what made me think of a bag of coal. She must've had a sheltered life.
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Side note: DW had never heard that if one was a "naughty" child instead of a "nice" one then Santa left a lump of coal in one's stocking. That's what made me think of a bag of coal. She must've had a sheltered life.
I guess! If it wasn't coal, it was switches... But that was back in the 1950's, and I suspect younger folks would not be able to relate to such "barbaric" practices.

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I donate ~$10K in (mostly) cash to organizations and individuals throughout the year. This year a few folks got the 4# mixed chocolate box (Esther Price if you want some really good stuff).

But yes I'm a curmudgeon and a Scrooge because I don't see the point in exchanging crap for no apparent reason; and I have no contact at all with folks I am biologically related to.

I also hit blood donation #177 in November.

I'll stop before I get moderated.
I've read enough of your posts to know how very generous you are. I'm glad you posted this response.
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Old 12-05-2011, 04:52 PM   #28
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This year, after Christmas, we are taking or DS (24), DD (26) and her hubby to 'Vegas to see Circ's Love. They do not know it yet, but I will also be giving a PowerPoint presentation on LBYM/pay-yourself-first/you-can-have-a-million-dollars-someday and why you need to.
So you are hosting your own version of a timeshare pitch? I think the prefered method is you don't give them the ticket to the show until you've held them captive for at least an hour.

Just kidding. Have fun.
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We do something different every year for our adult children. Last year it was a wine frig and a case of wine, this year we are taking them to Hawaii for 2 weeks, so it varies but usually runs about $1000 each.

We also do one new hand made ornament every year, (my moms tradition) and give one to everyone who visits our home during the holidays. So we now have enough home made ornaments to decorate the entire tree. All are unique and have a story. All are dated and we do about 60 to 70 each year. I do a prototype every year for the next year. That way I have about 11 months to figure out how to build them and make each and every one a little unique.
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We live far from our kids. We are giving them plane tickets to Orlando so they can meet us at Disneyworld. We love it, they* love it, and we get to see them. Win, win. We will also be giving them trinkets, pez dispensers, socks, pj's, cause that's how we roll.

*This will be grandbaby #1's first trip. I have indoctrinated her already. Every time we watched a Disney flick with her this fall and the castle came on screen I said "Do you want to go visit the castle with Mom'smom?" Now every time the castle comes up she says: "Go there?" Sweet
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