Patrick
Full time employment: Posting here.
Delawaredave said:Bottom line: divorce probably doesn't accelerate one's progress to ER.....
When one is a spender, eliminating that one from the equation accelerates the saver's progess to ER.
Delawaredave said:Bottom line: divorce probably doesn't accelerate one's progress to ER.....
nun said:I agree! I divorced at age 35 and it ended up being very good for my finances.
youbet said:For those of you who have found a financially compatible mate on the second time around, do you feel significantly financially set back compared to if you had found that person the first time?
youbet said:To everyone who has been able to get out of a so-called "bad" marriage and move on to better things, congratulations!
But, rather than compare a so-called bad marriage with a new, improved marriage, I'd like to see some $$$ comparisons between a good from the get-go marriage and a good second/third/fourth marriage. Do couples who marry and happily stay together have any real $$$ advantage over couples who need to correct the first marriage and only find financial compatibility in the second?
For those of you who have found a financially compatible mate on the second time around, do you feel significantly financially set back compared to if you had found that person the first time? Or, perhaps the learning experience of the first marriage gives you some edge over those who found Mr/Ms Right the first time and you may actually be at an advantage?
Patrick said:When one is a spender, eliminating that one from the equation accelerates the saver's progess to ER.
both; and the second outweighed the first.For those of you who have found a financially compatible mate on the second time around, do you feel significantly financially set back compared to if you had found that person the first time? Or, perhaps the learning experience of the first marriage gives you some edge over those who found Mr/Ms Right the first time and you may actually be at an advantage?
d said:both; and the second outweighed the first.
Obviously you never plan on divorce. However, being like-minded on financial matters would be my number one criterion for choosing a mate. Sex and religion/beliefs/values are also important. But in finances, being attracted by an opposite is bad news...youbet said:Are you recommending a plan where you'd marry the first time planning on divorce so you could get on to the second marriage? Or, if you could pick out a good one first time around, would you stick with him/her?
GMueller said:The limited results from this poll do not seem to support those responders who claim that their divorce hastened their early retirement.
audreyh1 said:Wow! I'm impressed by how many millionaires we have posting/responding on this forum. 68 out of the 78 respondents reached $1M net worth. That's 87%!
Audrey
P.S. OK, OK, I know $1M is not what it used to be!
There might be another poll that excludes home equity.Corporateburnout said:The real estate boom of the last 10 years have helped increased one's net worth dramatically. I'll bet a lot of folks with a net worth of 1M or over have a substantial amount tied in home equity.
Spanky said:There might be another poll that excludes home equity.
not making any such recommendation, but if you know of a way to begin with the nth marriage without first experiencing the first n-1, i'd be interested to hear about it!Are you recommending a plan where you'd marry the first time planning on divorce so you could get on to the second marriage? Or, if you could pick out a good one first time around, would you stick with him/her?
Not all knowledge has to be personally experienced to be "valuable".d said:my comment ("both") means that the experience of the prior marriage was a "valuable learning exercise". had we begun with the second, we would not have had the "benefit" of that learning.
there's no substitute for experience!Not all knowledge has to be personally experienced to be "valuable".
Nords said:Not all knowledge has to be personally experienced to be "valuable".
free4now said:I am FIRE is because I have a strong predilection to learn from history rather than by making my own mistakes.
Nords said:And I hope there's no such thing as a "good starter marriage"...
youbet said:
I'm very pleased for everyone (and I understand it's more than 50%) who chose to end their first marriage and move on and found a better situation in marriage 2 or 3 or........? It's good when things work out.
For us, well we kind of missed the boat. It's been 42 years since we first started dating and 36 years since we tied the knot. It got kind of busy inbetween then and now with earning a living and raising a family and we just forgot to call the lawyers to get the divorce proceedings going. So now we just party on knowing we missed our opportunity and living with the scorn and ridicule of being "old married fuddy duddies."
Could be worse I guess.....