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AltaRed · 07-16-2006, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Surreal

However at 22 she is at her peak fertility and a pregnancy will* make the whole common law issue a moot point.* *

ROFLMAO...... Turning up the heat....

Scrooge · 07-16-2006, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Mwsinron

Better off living with someone and seeing if you can stand the sight of their face 24/7. Dealing with them throwing underwear around, peeing on the toilet seat or being a pig/neat freak. Best get that out of the way before saying I do

I have seen couples where it worked out just fine. However, I have also seen couples that were seemingly as happy as they could be while living together unmarried, sometimes for a number of years, but once they got married, everything fell apart.*

It has been suggested that unmarried-living-together folks are (subconsciously) pressured to be on their best behavior. The act of marriage, by making the arrangement more permanent, frees them to do what they want to do, which isn't always what the other party expected...

yelnad · 07-16-2006, 12:14 PM

And then there are my parents. Married for 34 years and living apart. They see each other every week or two. They are the happiest they've ever been. (My husband says, don't even think about it).

haha · 07-16-2006, 12:48 PM

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And then there are my parents. Married for 34 years and living apart. They see each other every week or two. They are the happiest they've ever been. (My husband says, don't even think about it).

I think it is easier for young couples to get along, since they are almost always horny. Men and women may be annoying overall to one another, but they are also mutually very deeply gratifying and comforting.

It was my experience at least that a switch gets flipped in a woman around menopause, and after that, she may go days without voluntarily even thinking about sex. (Or at least sharing any of that thinking with me.)

This can make a still eager man feel rejected, and also it sometimes makes love-making a real chore to get her ready for takeoff. No more quickies, that is for sure.*

Ha

AltaRed · 07-16-2006, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by yelnad

And then there are my parents. Married for 34 years and living apart. They see each other every week or two. They are the happiest they've ever been. (My husband says, don't even think about it).

Not at all a bad idea. Many couples get to the point where they truly irriatate each other on a 24/7 basis, but do not want to sever the relationship. My view is that it is okay to do what it takes to make it work for you.

yelnad · 07-16-2006, 06:57 PM

It actually came about because of a new job for my mom. She misses Dad, but I'm not sure he could ever go back to living together 24/7.

astromeria · 07-17-2006, 04:33 AM

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Originally Posted by HaHa

It was my experience at least that a switch gets flipped in a woman around menopause, and after that, she may go days without voluntarily even thinking about sex. (Or at least sharing any of that thinking with me.)

Didn't happen to me, although I admit I'm, uh, eager less often than when I was younger (but that applies to DH as well!)--but I'm always willing

Ha, I think you make a great point about younger peoples' desire helping keep them together. Unless the desire gets aimed in a different direction, I guess.

Cattusbabe · 07-17-2006, 09:16 AM

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Originally Posted by HaHa

It was my experience at least that a switch gets flipped in a woman around menopause, and after that, she may go days without voluntarily even thinking about sex. (Or at least sharing any of that thinking with me.)

Man please. As if men don't slow down around middle age. Testerone levels drop and some of you guys spend more time sleeping in front of the tube instead of getting it on. Thank goodness there are Docs around these days who can help jump start the action. Don't want to miss out on all of those nooners now that me and DH are FIRED.

macdaddy · 07-17-2006, 10:32 AM

I think we may have scared the OP away.

Mwsinron · 07-17-2006, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by macdaddy

I think we may have scared the OP away.

Or maybe hes in common law court

Sarah in SC · 07-17-2006, 11:57 AM

Reminds me of the story about actor William Hurt, who played in the movie The Big Chill, which was filmed here in SC. He lived in Beaufort with a NYC ballet dancer during the filming, who subsequently sued him for alimony, because they were "married" under the fairly liberal common-law marriage laws of SC.
I bet he's NEVER been back here since that costly mistake!

http://www.brandeslaw.com/common_law...age/clmart.htm

Sarah