Bride price remains common in some cultures. Alexander McCall Smith's wonderful Botswana novels continually mention "lebola," the paying of cattle or money to a bride's family (even when the family in question never did anything for the bride).
Still, in an American context, your view of marriage sounds uncomfortably close to legitimized prostitution. I wonder if that is actually how you view it. As for me, nobody "paid" anything for me in a marriage (unless you count the engagement ring) and I've been married twice. Both times, I ended up making more money than my husband. Would you say that makes me a "loser" in the marriage, and I should have held out for someone who would pay more for my services? Or...heavens...do you see it as my "paying" for my husband's sexual input and caring...making him a legitimized gigolo?
Originally Posted by haha
This is very interesting, and not unusual. But how many women have ever offered you the "security if a marriage via a financial arrangement?" I know I have never had any of these offers.
Why does a man trading his sexual input and caring for a woman's sexual input and caring so often require the man to pay boot to close the deal? What ever became of dowry?