Hard times --- Kids Moving Back In with Mom and Dad

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Originally Posted by zoey What I noticed on this thread is that people are complaining about either living with family, or spending time with them during a visit and that's why I mentioned the "negative light". It's not my view, but the view of those on this thread and I'm just making an observation.

But it was your view that Protestants feel negatively about adult children continuing to live with parents more so than members of other religions. At least you called out Protestants specifically and omitted other religions. Our acquaintances are a diverse bunch in regard to religion. Jews, Catholics, various non-Christian sects, antheists, agnostics and yes, even Protestants. We don't see much of a difference in regard to their feelings about having adult children return home. Most feel that it's OK while the child gets on his/her feet but that eventually the child should become capable of living independently.

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Cultures that have extended family households typically develop mutually respectful relationships early in life. The children (even as adults) respect their parents and contribute to the family as they are able. Some children live in the family compound, but not all.

[d]

DD moved back home twice; once just after college and once during an employment "transition". it was at first a major adjustment for all, but did turn out quite well, and we were all grateful it worked out as it did. it was good to have her with us, and while i do enjoy the solitude, do miss having her around.

and now the other side of the coin: my 98yo mother is soon to be joining me. i sure hope this works okay. (i only half jest that she's only lived to that age because of her stubborness.) this could be a challenge!

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Originally Posted by d my 98 yo mother is soon to be joining me. i sure hope this works okay. (i only half jest that she's only lived to that age because of her stubborness.) this could be a challenge!

Odd are she won't be with you long. Unless her needs are beyond your ability to provide, accommodate her flinty-ness during the time you have.