MooreBonds
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
I guess the X years certain would help with that. After all, I doubt that his daughter is expecting any inheritance from her Dad long term (she can see he's a dead-beat), so maybe an X years certain annuity could work. I just wouldn't want to see her left out, though we could throw her some support from whatever we get - we really don't need it.
The other thing that I think some posters are missing - and I'll take the blame for that with such a long entry post - is it isn't an issue of him contesting the will or my Mom's trust (they have no-contest clauses), or his trust (he's the sole beneficiary, nothing really to contest, other than the fact that the bank determines the quarterly payments, but I think even he understands the reason for that - to keep him from blowing it). It's a longer term issue.
I understand that the two issues are somewhat 'unrelated'...but if you and your siblings' attempts to set the record straight on OO selling the business and it flourishing AFTER he sold it, so far have not sunk in - your mother passing on will not instantly solve any of that. And imagine if his ENTIRE YEAR'S worth of payments have been diverted to some unnamed charity - now THAT would be a certain 'unjustice' in his eyes that is undeniable (I'm not saying it's not justified, just that it's in black and white numbers that is known and not subject to personal views). Imagine how much he would hound you all and wail and gnash his teeth over an entire year's worth of living expenses taken away from him. He would be knocking on your door every day to complain!
ESPECIALLY because, after that, what has he got to lose for the rest of the year? He might as well give you all hell 10x over EVERY DAY for screwing him out of an entire year's worth of support.
I just don't see the bank wanting to get involved in a highly subjective LEGAL matter. Bank trust departments aren't in the business of legal matters, they are in the business of overseeing trust assets and distributions to people according to your mother's wishes. I'm willing to bet that if you presented your original proposed arrangement to a bank trust dept of them deciding when to send out a check, they would say " Give us the name of your family lawyer, and the family lawyer (outside neutral 3rd party) can be listed in the estate as the deciding judge on when the inheritance checks are given to OO". THAT is probably the only way a bank trust dept would agree to it, since it's all in the lawyer's hands to decide if the OO violated the terms of the trust.
And, as you can see instantly, THAT arrangement would involve legal fees at $250/hr every year. Probably $15,000/year in fees+, especially if OO files any sort of lawsuit, given all of the constant phone calling and bickering and other issues OO would undoubtedly engage in. Because there's no way you could keep OO from CONSTANTLY calling the lawyer. And I'm sure the lawyer would be happy to talk all day and night with OO while he is on the clock.
As another poster asked, just how much is OO thinking he is "owed"? On the order of $100k? Or is it $1MM or $2MM? If it's on the order of $100k or even $250k, can you just let mom leave him that much more to shut him up once and for all? Maybe even have mom written in her estate that the estate trustee will only give OO a check for $250k from her estate if he signs a memorandum that he will cease and desist all harassment of you and your siblings about past business in order to get the extra $250k. If he doesn't cease after the payment, then he will be hit with restraining orders and all contact will be forever cutoff.
What kind of harassment has he unleashed on you? Just phone calls every few weeks? Showing up at your house during the weekend to complain? Seeing you around town? How frequent is it and how in-depth?
Or how about this: What if you and siblings agree to cut checks to OO every year, starting after mother's passing, for $X from each sibling, with the clear understanding in writing that if OO says NOTHING about the business for the next 12 months, then he will continue to get $X each year from all siblings, and it repeats (if he then says nothing for months 13-24, he gets another stipend, and same for months 25-36, etc.)
If he harasses any of you (and you must, in writing, define what constitutes "harassment"), then he will not get his annual stipend next year from that sibling.
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