HaHa said:
What else will be revealed over time? Bentleys? Tummy tucks and wattle removal?
I suspect this relates to the "languages of love." Some people don't feel loved unless they receive gifts (not necessarily expensive ones).
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html :
--Giving/receiving physical touch
--Giving/receiving acts of service
--Sharing quality time
--Giving/receiving words of affirmation
--Giving/receiving gifts
My husband and I took the test and we came out the same--we both value giving and receiving physical touch and acts of service, somewhat less so quality time, much less words of affirmation, and gifts not at all--we prefer to buy the things we want for ourselves.
My mother needs gifts to feel loved...she now has jewelry and 2(!) mink coats she doesn't wear. She LOVED getting gifts of clothing and jewelry, which made her feel adored and beautiful. With my father gone, the gift thing is a bit of a problem. I've been getting her season tix to symphony, but she doesn't want to go any more (she falls asleep halfway through). So now I get her facials--and go with her and get one too (had my first just before my daughter's wedding, and loved it).
I need acts of service to feel loved...DH makes me breakfast every morning, and I make him dinner. We both feel loved
I plan dinner parties and do most of the work, but he does all of the cleanup except putting away the leftovers (it used to make me crazy that he'd load the dishwasher while the food sat out to fester--so I just deal with the food).
I remember a woman my brother was dating calling me in tears because he didn't give her a constant flow of little gifts--which even the husband she divorced did(!). But my brother doesn't value gifts as a giver or receiver (like me). Come to think of it, he got pretty irritated after a while that she rarely cooked for him (an act of service he loves to give and receive, but she didn't--preferred eating out, which of course my brother always had to pay for despite the fact that she had 4 times his wealth and was FIREd and bro is still working hard at his own business (she was also irritated that he wouldn;t take lots of days off to spend weekday time with her). GOod thiing they broke up, though she was really upset about it.
Hmmm...my SIL got a tummy tuck and eye "perking" for her 50th birthday. I got semi-retirement for my 52nd and full retirement for my 55th