LONG TERM CARE,SCAREY STUFF

[Rich_in_Tampa]

Originally Posted by lazygood4nothinbum

a mom who was always quite the babe (in college people used to ask "who's the chic in the picture"--back off, that's my mom), even a bit of a babe into old age, how do i know she is safe from rape when i'm not there?

what kind of person signs up to work hospice? a deeply caring person? someone who likes to help people die? a murderer? what kind of person signs up to change my mother's diaper, to wipe her ass, to clean her breasts?

I've had experience in these settings and agree that family presence and engagement bring out the best in the caretakers. All for it.

LG4NB: By way of reassurance, my experience is that the vast majority of hospice and skilled nursing caretakers are dedicated, compassionate and worthy of much admiration for doing a hard, important job. There are a few monsters, but very few. I would certainly be vigilant, but mostly appreciative and confident of their care.

You ask, "What kind of person signs up to change my mother's diaper, to wipe her ass, to clean her breasts?" -- underpaid, unappreciated Saints, mostly. Thank them every time you visit.

[Brat]

Originally Posted by Rich_in_Tampa

underpaid, unappreciated Saints, mostly. Thank them every time you visit.

The most important aspect of any relationship is respect.* My brother and I have found that many who tended to our Mother's needs are friends, sweethearts, relatives of classmates/ friends/ neighbors.* It is a reminder that we are all members of the same community.* It is interesting that this kinship bridges race, education and income.

A well maintained inventory of chocolates helps.

[lazygood4nothinbum]

agreed with all. also we tip really really well. we are not allowed to tip individually but at holidays everyone sends money which is distributed anonymously. other relatives must tip really well too because we always get a very nice response.

i've no doubt, well, maybe a tiny doubt, as to the level of care i have secured for my mom. sorry for my rant. it's just that .0000001% chance that mom might ever be mistreated, if even for a split second, well, it's 1 in the a.m. and i'm still not sleeping. i say trust the system; now to convince myself.

[Ed_The_Gypsy]

LG4NB,

You are OK, kid.

Now, go to bed, you nitwit.

Gitano