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Old 03-28-2006, 04:42 PM   #21
 
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He does like coloring in the bar chart when we reach another milestone!
Do you allow him to use colored pencils, or make him stick with crayons?
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Old 03-28-2006, 05:38 PM   #22
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I'm an exception then...

DW takes care of all the finances. There was a time about 10 years ago when I agreed to clean the cat boxes if she'd do the money stuff. It's worked out well since. I get an allowance whenever I ask for one, and she buys me more toys than I deserve.
I like it that way.
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Old 03-28-2006, 07:46 PM   #23
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Calgary Girl/CJ/Outahere ---* *Guess we are all in the same boat.* I pay the bills, keep a financial statement, keep track of investments, etc., etc.*
I'm pretty much in that boat, too. DH and I split the bills, but I handle the investments and keep track of everything.
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I'm torn between making an open ended marriage proposal to all of the women frugally managing their money and keeping quiet about my situation.* My DW is totally clueless about our finances.* She spends to what's in the checkbook and then gets real worried about our finances.* I have multiple accounts and only move an ureasonably small amout of money in that doesn't reduce my savings plan.

I have tried to educate her and enroll her in the goal of ER.* Her eyes glaze over and I realize she doesn't care.* I've decided it must be somewhat genetic since I've started managing my FIL's money.* He obviously hadn't planned to live as long as he has.

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In general, I plan and DH implements. I do all financial research and decide what to do, then I might have him do any implementation aspects I dislike. For example, I decided to open an account at PenFed. So I had him deal with joining that military association, talking to the folks at PenFed, and actually moving the money from the account I specified to the PenFed account and then buying the CDs I specified. I track it from there and will tell him what to do as each CD expires. DH has no interest in figuring out what to do, and I hate dealing with the details. He also pays the bills, submits medical bills for reimbursement, assembles tax info, and such. He procrastinates, but eventually does it. Neither of us is organized about paperwork and such--we could really use a wife*
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Same here. I do all the money. She has a checkbook, an ATM card and a couple of credit cards. "Buy what you want...when it gets into four digits+, check with me so I can make sure theres enough money in the account".

Whenever I start telling her about the finances she humors me by pretending to listen. Once a quarter she does a good acting job of making a brief lament about not knowing anything about the money situation.

Its more or less an "allocated job", like mowing the lawn.

I wrote her a 3 page "where our money is, why its there, how the bills get paid, and what to do if I get hit by a bus" letter. Then I put that, digital copies of our wills, copies of all of our tax forms for the last 5 years, a file with a list of all of our on and offline accounts with passwords, and everything else that seemed relevant onto a crappy 16MB secure digital card that came with one of our old digital cameras.
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...I wrote her a 3 page "where our money is, why its there, how the bills get paid, and what to do if I get hit by a bus" letter.* Then I put that, digital copies of our wills, copies of all of our tax forms for the last 5 years, a file with a list of all of our on and offline accounts with passwords, and everything else that seemed relevant onto a crappy 16MB secure digital card that came with one of our old digital cameras.
I am working on the same kind of thing. A sort of "I'm dead now you have to deal with all this stuff" lettter. I am also trying to reduce the accounts I have and consolidating assets into few places (Vanguard) to keep the task of finding all the eggs I have hidden over the years. I have all the files in the safe and she has the combination. Just about everything is in there including notes on my mother's accounts and my late wife's Trust accounts. I just need to keep the files on accounts and passwords up to date.

I hope to get down to 4-5 institutions for our stuff...would like 1 what that is not practice right now. Too many accounts for other people than just us to take care of but if I were to drop dead today.....she would have a really good tool to go by or pass on to the next Trustee. There is a lot to be said for living simply.........I will work on that.
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