People often invest a lot of themselves in their homes, and this customization and dreamhome-ness winds up costing a lot of money and time. I think I understand this, but I personally do not feel any of these things. The day I start dreaming about homes is the day I will feel that I have forgotten how to dream. I think this "no-way" attitude is more common among men, and especially single men. By the time my Dad was 50 or so, what he really dreamed of was living in a hotel, and eating most of his meals at one of the old fasioned cafeterias or businessmen's tavern/restaurant to be found in those days in any big city downtown, with an occasional walk to a quality linen tablecloth restaurant. When he wasn't working he would have a beer and some sausage, visit amigos around town, and observe the flow of life.
Often a home becomes an ongoing project too, such that modificationas and upgrades are desired over time, not because anything has worn out or has become nonfunctional, but because a change or dressup of "tired" appearance is wanted.
A friend lives in a nice large townhome in a golf community. His wife is after him to build an addtional room so she can have a larger laundry room. I told him he could get her laundry picked up and delivered twice a week for the rest of her life much cheaper than spending the money and undergoing the disruption to get a larger laundry room. What kind of desire is that anyway, a larger laundry room? Have we sunk so low that we aspire to devote ever more resources to doing mundane tasks that in times past few middle class persons would have done for themselves?
He would prefer living in a city highrise, and outsourcing a lot more than laundry, as his happiest years were single living in a highrise in Manhatten. But I imagine there are more than one or two of you older gents who would prefer living differently from how you now live, but unfortunately you have 1 vote, and your wife has 2, and you feel that she can get along without you more easily than you could manage without her. QED
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