Rich_in_Tampa
Do you have just the one daughter? How far are they now that she has moved to CA?[/QUOTE said:
I also have a son who is 31 yrs old and lives in our town. He has never been married and has no children. We love him very much. His lifestyle is very different from my daughter's lifestyle. He has lived with two brothers for several years and they have company that come visit from all over. They know people in several bands and he goes to lots of parties, athletic events and concerts. He is very social. (Actually, his lifestyle is very similar to what our lifestyle was before I had him at age 25.) However, he has been dating a very nice lady for 3 yrs and she wants them to move in together, along with her soon to be 12 yr old son, as soon as she graduates from college in May. He told me that he thinks he will move to a place with them, but is not completely thrilled by it. He says that he has been spoiled by being able to do whatever he wants to do, when he is not working. He does not visit all that often, due to working and his life with his friends. I have only visited him probably about 3-4 times at his place, since he left home around 19 or 20. Since he lives with 2 other people, I do not want to intrude.
My daughter's spouse practically lived at our house his senior yr of high school. After they were married, he would drive from our house in Morgantown WV to Bethesda Naval Hospital MD and work either 2 or 3 12 hr shifts that week and then drive back to our house. My DD had a scholarship that paid for her college in WV. After she had her DD, they moved together as a family to Bethesda for 8 months. Even when my DD lived in MD, her and her baby came back home to visit quite a bit. My sister said they were wasting their money paying rent, when she was back home so much. She just turned 21 last month. Her DH went to TX for 3 months for training for a specialty, so DD and her DD moved back to our house again in 06/09.
I love both of my children very much, but I am very close to my DD and her family, since we have spent so much time together. My DD and I have a lot of things in common also. My granddaughter thinks of me as a second mommy. She has lived with us so much and I have helped care for her as if she were my own child. I would also watch her whenever my DD needed to go to MD or to TX to see her DH.
In other words, I am having to adjust being from WV to CA away from them! Sorry, for such a long reply.