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Old 02-28-2011, 06:52 AM   #1
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Staying Out of Debt Helps Preserve Marriage

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This article discusses income, education, and spending discipline as aids to staying out of a divorce proceeding.

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Old 02-28-2011, 07:09 AM   #2
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Its long been known that finances are a major factor in divorce and happy marriages. I can't find a rational for government throwing money down the toilet to tell us what we already know funding of these sorts of research projects.
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Its long been known that finances are a major factor in divorce..........
I know this to be true. When our pot hit 7 figures X-DW said adios.
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Old 02-28-2011, 11:55 AM   #4
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This is why you and your spouse need to be on the same page when it comes to finances - you should know this BEFORE getting married.
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What should I pack?

Who cares? Just as long as you get the heck out!
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Ha...you sure have been talking a lot about marriage lately...


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This is why you and your spouse need to be on the same page when it comes to finances - you should know this BEFORE getting married.
Heh...I was 19 when I married DH. I knew nothing about being on the same page. I wouldn't have known what 'same page' meant anyway.

Turns out he was/is a spender and I was/am a saver. Sometimes things balance out.

btw, we're still together after 35 years.
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Turns out he was/is a spender and I was/am a saver. Sometimes things balance out.

btw, we're still together after 35 years.
All things are relative. With wife #1 she was the spender and I was the saver. With wife #2 (coming up on 23 years) I am the spender and she is the saver.

Go figure.
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All things are relative. With wife #1 she was the spender and I was the saver. With wife #2 (coming up on 23 years) I am the spender and she is the saver.

Go figure.
Maybe the big problem would be having two spenders?
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Ha...you sure have been talking a lot about marriage lately...
I think I am permanently unmarried. I won't even sign a cellphone contract.

I am interested in relationships though, and in particular what things caused my marriage to hit the rocks even though both me and my former wife are pretty reasonable people, with no worse than the usual sprinkling of annoying features, an many quite attractive aspects too. (Particularly in her case)

I tend to interpret the above facts as meaning that perhaps marriage/quasi-marriage requires more surrender of one's individual desires than some people are prepared to make, once the child rearing thing is taken care of.

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I think I am permanently unmarried. I won't even sign a cellphone contract.
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I am interested in relationships, and in particular what things caused my marriage to hit the rocks even though both me and my former wife are pretty reasonable people, with no worse than the usual sprinkling of annoying features, an many quite attractive aspects too. (Particularly in her case)

I tend to interpret the above facts as meaning that perhaps marriage/quasi-marriage requires more surrender of one's individual desires than some people are prepared to make, once the child rearing thing is taken care of.

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It's been my experience that marriage is never 50/50....more like 70/30. But I think that's ok as long as both are allowed to enjoy the larger slice of the pie from time to time...
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Y'all are going to love my review of that new book I just go, called Spousonomics, when I finally finish it. It is dynamite! And Ha, I think you need to put it on hold at the library right now--you will find it fascinating (and hilarious).

I, too, was married young. All I knew about being on the same page is that he could buy beer and I was underage for most of our dating time! And we were both readers...that was huge, actually.
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All things are relative. With wife #1 she was the spender and I was the saver. With wife #2 (coming up on 23 years) I am the spender and she is the saver.

Go figure.
Hey...now it's your turn to have fun!

I think it's fine to be a spender as long as it doesn't get out of control. Even though DH is the spender, he's always agreed to pay the bills first and he has worked most of his adult life.

Even though I would have liked to save more money, I've enjoyed his spending ways as most times it has brought us both pleasure. Instead of hoarding every penny, we enjoyed ourselves along the way...
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Yes dear...

But I think that's ok as long as both are allowed to enjoy the larger slice of the pie from time to time...
And if the pie is particularly yummy, daily is best if one can handle the effort!


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Y'all are going to love my review of that new book I just go, called Spousonomics, when I finally finish it. It is dynamite! And Ha, I think you need to put it on hold at the library right now--you will find it fascinating (and hilarious).
Done! And I am only #60 in the queue.

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Ah, example number 837 of ha's gentlemanly ways: the man is even cmplimentary toward his former spouse when she is not in earshot. Ha, you are a class act.
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