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Ten stupidest mistakes made by the newly self employed

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Having been a non-employee for about 14 years now, Iíve made my share of stupid business mistakes. Iíve also coached a number of people to start their own businesses, and Iíve seen many of them make similar mistakes. This advice is geared towards small business owners, particularly people who are just starting (or about to start) their own business.

1. Selling to the wrong people.

While sales are important to the survival of any business, you donít need to push your business on everyone you meet, including friends and family. Furthermore, itís a waste of time to try selling to people who simply donít need what youíre offering.

Selling to the wrong people includes trying to sell to everyone. Some customers are much easier to sell to than others. For example, my wife does web consulting for small businesses, and sheís learned that some clients are much harder to work with than others. If a potential customer is broke and obsessively worried about every nickel they spend, if they want a web site but donít know why, or if they simply donít understand the Internet well enough, they wonít be a good client in the long run. Feel free to say no to customers that are more trouble than theyíre worth. Let your competitors sell to them instead. Youíll save yourself many headaches, and youíll free up more time to focus on serving the best customers.

Just because someone is interested in doing business with you doesnít mean you should accept. In my first year in business, I probably said yes to at least 50% of the people who approached me with a potential business relationship. I wasted a lot of time pursuing deals that were too much of a stretch to begin with. I accepted lunch invitations from random business people who just wanted to ďsee if thereís a way we could do something together.Ē Virtually none of them made me a dime. If you think a meeting is pointless, it probably is. Donít network with random people just because you think youíre supposed to network. Today I accept such invitations less than 1/10 as often. If an offer doesnít excite me right away, I usually decline or ignore it. Most relationships simply arenít worth pursuing. Learn to say no to the weak opportunities so you have the capacity to say yes to the golden opportunities.

2. Spending too much money.

Until you have a steady cashflow coming in, donít spend your precious start-up cash unless itís absolutely necessary. I started my computer games business with about $20,000 cash (my own money), and it went fast; shortly thereafter I was using debt to finance the business. Unfortunately, the original business model didnít work, and it took five years before the business was generating a positive cashflow. I soon learned that every dollar invested in the business was another dollar that eventually had to be recouped from sales.

In 2004 I started this personal development business with only $9 cash even though I could have spent much more on it. No fancy logo, no snazzy web design, no business cards or stationary. I paid to register the domain name, and that was it. Thatís as much as I was willing to spend before I started generating a positive cashflow. All other business expenditures came out of that cashflow.

Your business should put cash into your pocket, so before you ďinvestĒ money into it, be clear on how youíre going to pull that cash back out again.

Obviously some businesses require lots of cash to start, but in the age of the Internet business, you can very easily start a lucrative business for pocket change.

3. Spending too little money.

Itís also a mistake to be too stingy with your cash. Donít let frugality get in the way of efficiency. Take advantage of skilled contractors who can do certain tasks more efficiently than you can. Buy decent equipment when itís clear youíll get your moneyís worth. You donít have to overspend on fancy furniture, but get functional furniture that helps you be more productive. Donít use an antiquated computer with outdated software that slows you down if you can afford something better.

It takes time to develop the wisdom to know when youíre being too tight or too loose with your cash, so if youíre just starting out, get a second opinion. Often the very thought of getting a second opinion makes the correct choice clear. If you canít justify the expenditure to someone you respect, itís probably a mistake. On the other hand, there are situations where itís hard to justify not spending the cash.

4. Putting on a fake front.

Many one-person businesses refer to themselves as ďwe.Ē Thatís something a lot of new entrepreneurs do, but it isnít necessary. Thereís nothing wrong with a one-person business, especially today. My games business has mostly been a we over the years, but my personal development business is still an I. My wifeís VegFamily Magazine business is a we, since she has a staff working for her, but her web consulting business is an I. Itís perfectly OK to refer to your business as an I when youíre the only one working in it. Pretending that youíre a we when youíre really an I is a bit silly. Itís not going to gain you any respect in a way that matters. Promoting yourself as an I may even be an advantage today, since people will know the buck stops with you, and if you make a promise, youíre the one who will carry it out. Promises from a we sometimes arenít worth very much.

If youíre a newly self-employed person, donít pretend youíre anything else. Price your products and services fairly for your level of skills and talents. Some newly self-employed people think they must become actors. The business they promote to the world is pure fantasy. Trying to fool your customers in this manner will only backfire. If youíre so desperate for business that you need to lie, you shouldnít be starting your own business. If you canít provide real value and charge fairly for it, donít play the game of business. Develop your skills a bit more first.

5. Assuming a signed contract will be honored.

Iíve made this mistake more than I care to admit. Iíve had signed contracts with supposedly reputable corporations, and they werenít worth squat when the CEO decided he wanted out of the deal, even for completely dishonorable reasons. Sure I was in the right, but did I want to go to court to enforce it? No, Iíd rather continue doing meaningful work.

A signed contract is just a piece of paper. Whatís behind a signed contract is a relationship. If the relationship goes sour, the contract wonít save you. The purpose of a contract is to clearly define everyoneís roles and commitments. But itís the relationship, not the paper, that ultimately enforces those commitments. When I understood this, I focused more on relationships and worried less about what was on paper, and my business deals went much more smoothly. Once you start falling back on the paper, the deal is already in trouble. Creative (and lucrative) business deals almost always stray from the paper contracts that represent them. One of my attorneys, who had worked on dozens of game development deals, told me that no deal he worked on ever followed the contract exactly; most werenít even close. And these were big money deals in many cases. Business relationships are similar to other personal relationships ó they twist and turn all over the place.

Written contracts are still necessary, especially when dealing with larger corporations where people come and go, but theyíre secondary to relationships. Just donít make the mistake of assuming that the contract is the deal. The contract is only the dealís shadow. The real deal is the relationship. Keep your business relationships in good order, and you wonít have to worry so much about whatís on paper.

Itís sad but true that there are loads of scoundrels in business. Many of them hold titles like CEO, President, and CFO. There are indeed people out there who seem to care about nothing but money, and they will lie, cheat, and steal to get it. In recent years some of the more despicable ones have gotten themselves indicted (or are already behind bars). But there are plenty of others to whom the word honor has no meaning. For example, in the computer gaming industry, it isnít unusual for large publishers to feign interest in certain games and string the developers along. They give the developer every indication that a deal is pending, but all the developer sees are delays and false verbal promises. In reality the publisher only wants to keep the game off the market to keep it from competing with one of their own titles; they hope to cause the developer to miss the next Christmas season or to run out of cash and cancel the title altogether. It happens. Business, especially the entertainment industry, is not for the timid.

6. Going against your intuition.

Intuition is just as important in business as it is in other settings. Youíd be amazed at how many gigantic corporate deals are green-lighted or red-lighted because of some CEOís gut feeling. While you might think that logic is the language of business, thatís far from reality. If you base all your business deals on hard logic and ignore your intuition, most likely youíll be in for a world of hurt.

We humans arenít very logical to begin with. We simply donít have enough data to make truly logical decisions because business deals depend on human beings, and we donít have a logical system for accurately predicting human behavior. Not being able to predict how other humans will behave is a pretty big gap in our logic. And intuition has to fill that gap. The real performance of human beings is what makes or breaks business deals. But to assume everyone will perform as expected is unrealistic in the extreme. No deal ever goes perfectly.

Itís hard to say no to a deal that seems juicy by the numbers when my gut is saying, ďYouíll regret it,Ē but more often than not, I later see evidence my intuition was right all along. Sometimes I just get a bad read on someone, and then years later, several people I know are complaining about being ripped off by that person.

Intuition is a critical part of the decision-making process in business. Since business deals depend on relationships, you need to get a read on the other people involved in any deal you consider. If you get a bad read, walk away. If you get a good read, proceed with caution.

7. Being too formal.

Iíll say it again. Business is built on relationships. In some settings a certain degree of formality is appropriate, but in most business situations being too formal only gets in the way. Business relationships work best when thereís a decent human-to-human connection behind them.

I think itís a mistake to be too formal even when looking to establish new business relationships. If someone mails me a letter that starts with ďDear Mr. PavlinaĒ and then goes on to explain a long-winded business proposal, Iíll usually just trash it, especially if it uses the word ďweĒ a lot. Better to fire off an email with a ďHi Steve,Ē and just ask me very informally if Iím interested in the kind of arrangement youíre seeking. It saves time and opens the door to a real human relationship. Human beings donít want to build relationships with faceless corporations. They only want relationships with other human beingsÖ sometimes animals too I suppose.

Treat your business relationships like friendships (or potential friendships). Formality puts up walls, and walls donít foster good business relationships. No one is loyal to a wallÖ except the one in China.

Formality is boring and tedious. People want to enjoy their work. If someone address me like a computer, Iíll respond in kind ó by hitting delete. But if someone demonstrates they have a real personality and a good sense of humor, a connection is far more likely.

8. Sacrificing your personality quirks.

In the early years of running my games business, I took myself too seriously and assumed that I had to act ďbusinesslikeĒ Ö whatever that meant. Being self-employed was a weighty responsibility, and other people were counting on me. Sink or swim, right?

I started my games business in my early 20s, and people in their early 20s are invariably weird. But I assumed that as a business owner, being weird wasnít appropriate or acceptable. So most of my business letters and emails looked like they were written by the same people who created Microsoftís EULAs. The job title of ďPresidentĒ really went to my head. I learned how to function without a personality.

It took a number of years, but eventually I became comfortable just being myself, especially after my games business became profitable. Now that Iím a blogger, my personality quirks and unusual experiences are strengths. My personal oddities give this blog a unique flavor. If I were to take myself too seriously and write more formally, this blog would be very dull and would likely lose much of its audience.

Itís perfectly OK to be your own weird self and to inject your own unique spirit into your business, especially if youíre in your teens or 20s. Donít be afraid to be more like Steve JobsÖ and less like Steve Ballmer. Donít pretend to be something youíre not. Ultimately youíll enjoy your work much more if you attract the kinds of customers and partners that want to work with you for who you are ó warts and all. Send the people who only want to work with androids to your corporate competitors. They deserve each other.

If other people canít handle your weirdness, too bad for them. Focus your energy on the people who can.

9. Failing to focus on value creation.

Itís easy to fall into the trap of thinking that the purpose of a business is to make money. But the real purpose of a business is to create value. While itís possible to make money in the short run without creating much value, in the long run itís unsustainable. Even criminal organizations have to create value for someone. When you know your business is just sucking value away from others without providing anything in return, it will erode your self-esteem, and the business wonít be much fun to run.

Why does your business exist? It exists to provide some sort of value, both for you and your customers. The better you understand what value youíre trying to provide, the better youíll be able to focus. The basic value provided by my games business was cerebral entertainment. The basic value provided by is personal growth. Too often business owners arenít clear on what value theyíre trying to provide. They just sell stuff and hope for the best. Thatís a lousy business model. The world doesnít need more selling or more stuff. But it always needs and wants genuine value creation, and thatís where you should direct your efforts.

Presently this web site contains over 400 free articles. Thatís a lot of value creation. Thousands of people visit each day to receive some of that value. Helping people grow is the businessí primary aim.

10. Failing to optimize.

Although value creation is essential to a sustainable business, itís equally naive to assume you can simply focus on creating value, and the rest will take care of itself. You may build a business that provides good value but loses money. As a business owner, you need to find a way to deliver your value in a cost effective manner. Most likely your first attempt will be very suboptimal. Youíll waste too much time, money, and resources trying to produce and deliver your value. Thatís OK though. Many businesses start out that way. Just donít let yours stay that way.

Once you have a particular business process in place, pull it apart and re-optimize it from time to time. Look for ways to make it more efficient. Can you get it done in less time? At less cost? Can you do it less frequently? Can you outsource it? Can you dump the process altogether?

I used to process credit orders for my games business manually. I started the business in 1994, and when Iíd receive an order through the mail or via my web site, Iíd use some software to input and run the orders by modem. At the end of each month, Iíd manually tally the sales. That worked fine when sales were low, but it became burdensome as more products were released and sales increased. Several years ago I upgraded the process such that online orders were fully automated, including instant delivery of the game download. All orders are recorded in a database, and I can view real-time reports to see how sales are doing for each product. It took some work to set this up, but it was well worth it. That one optimization saved me a lot of time and effort, and I donít have to pay high fees for a third-party order processing service.

Donít fall into the trap of using archaic methods for doing routine tasks that could be automated, including inventory management, billing, accounting, order processing, communications, and marketing. If you find yourself doing the same repetitive tasks month after month, make sure you put some effort into optimizing them. Not optimizing is like throwing time and money down the drain. Itís often much easier to save time and money than it is to create them.

An Internet business has abundant opportunities for optimization because itís so easy to try new things and measure the results. In the first year after launching this site, I experimented quite a bit with Google Adsense. Many people donít like the ad layout on this site, but itís the most effective layout Iíve tried so far. I use it because it works. Adding the donations page was another optimization. Some people click ads, some people donate, and some do both. So even though value creation is the primary aim of the business, this is still a for-profit business and needs to generate income in order to be sustainable. If I donít eat, I donít write. More money means more resources for ongoing value creation. So value creation and optimization go hand-in-hand.

It takes significant effort to build a successful business, but itís also a tremendous growth experience. I know many people who have quit their jobs to run their own businesses. Many of them didnít do as well as theyíd hoped, but I donít know any that regretted taking the plunge. Thereís simply no substitue for holding the reins of your own destiny.

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Numbers 2,3,4,6,7 and 8 aren't just common business mistakes, but common *life* mistakes...
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Number 6 has a lot of investing implications. A lot of people look at the numbers and forget about the human aspects. A lot of illogic is involved!

My favorite all around is #5. Contracts lay a groundwork for how you both expect to perform in an agreement. They add either a slight or substantial layer of "protection" depending on the morals of the people involved. Its usually slight. But because people like to express their own moral levels onto others, they expect performance at that level and get angry when they dont get it. The other guy wont care, he wont change, and its best to just move on.
Be fearful when others are greedy, and greedy when others are fearful. Just another form of "buy low, sell high" for those who have trouble with things. This rule is not universal. Do not buy a 1973 Pinto because everyone else is afraid of it.
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CFB...Very good points.*

Over the years I have seen many small business people totally under estimate the amount of cash they need to support their working capital needs and are way too aggressive in their assumptions as to how quickly the business will turn a positive cash flow. This, of course, typically leads to disaster.
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Thank you for the lessons learned. I'm hoping to start a small business in the near future. I would like to be a personal trainer with a focus on pilates and yoga. I won't get rich, but at 48 I have pretty nice nest egg of $1M from an early retirement package and 401k rolled into an IRA (worked 27+ years in telecom...those last 5 years were rough w/multiple mergers!). Right now just downshifting working at a utility (and bored) while I get my training and certifications in order. I'm fortunate to work PT at a small studio near home to get experience. I LOVE IT. My clients appreciate their workouts and I really enjoy spending the time with them. My DH and I are in the process of building a 2nd home (UBuildIt) for retirement and will rent out primary residence. Then I will leave the utility and go for the gusto of my own business. For now....just soaking up as much as I can.

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