Originally Posted by truenorth418
1. I was surprised to find I was reluctant to admit to others that I am retired. At first I guess this was partly because there was a possibility I would return to work and I didn't want to appear foolish. Later it was because I did not want to brag or make others feel uncomfortable, especially friends or family of similar age who don't like their jobs (most of them). I am coming out of this lately and am beginning to feel more comfortable telling people I am retired.
2. I thought I would spend more money. I am actually struggling to spend as much now as I did when I was working. All of my financial models suggest I could spend more than I do, and I am making a concerted effort to splurge more on myself in 2015.
3. I thought I would volunteer more, do pro bono work, and generally seek out ways of replicating work in order to find "meaning" in my life. I have come to find that I simply enjoy taking each day as it comes and that "meaning" comes from doing what I feel like doing without living according to others' demands or expectations. If opportunities come up where I can help out others I take them. If at other times I just feel like hanging out at the gym or chilling at a coffee shop all afternoon so be it. ....
Frighteningly similar experience here. Almost 3 years in, I am almost comfortable conceding that I am retired but I am still careful to try not to seem like I'm bragging. We have done some splurging as we have become more comfortable spending rather than saving, but the market performance has increased our nestegg by 20% despite our modest withdrawals.
While I sometimes feel I should do more volunteering, I have been amazed how content I can be just puttering around and not doing much of anything. The free time has enabled me to help some friends and family with small projects which helps keeps me busy. I also take an occasional afternoon nap.