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Old 03-18-2014, 05:39 AM   #21
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Old 03-18-2014, 05:44 AM   #22
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I've been retired going on eight years and when people ask me what I do, I tell them; play golf, play guitar out in bars on occasion, ride my motorcycle, do volunteer work for VITA during tax season, work in my garden, exercise, eat out with friends, read, improve my photography skills, spend as much time as I can with grandkids. I tell them retirement is like anything else in life, it is what you make it.

I quit worrying or even thinking about what others think a long time ago. It is my life to live, not theirs.
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Old 03-18-2014, 06:28 AM   #23
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I did not retire "to" anything. I just wanted out. End of story. I have been nothing but uncontrollably happy with the results.

All the stuff people said about becoming bored, wasting away, climbing the walls, not feeling useful or fulfilled etc, was just another example of other people not knowing what the hell they are talking about.
+1 I actually had our HR person tell me: "You'll get tired of skiing the Alps, wintering in Florida and sailing your boat in the summer...it sounds good, but you'll get tired of it". Uh, no, I haven't! Looking back on it, he sounded kind of idiotic...

People with no imagination! They can't envision another lifestyle.
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Old 03-18-2014, 07:07 AM   #24
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I like retirement because everyday is Saturday.
Yes, except less busy/crowded! "Real" weekends are my stay home and clean days!!

People who say they would be 'bored' are either boring themselves with boring or no hobbies or they are lying to themselves because *they* haven't saved for retirement so they have to make themselves believe that they don't even WANT to retire.
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DH and I love retirement--his is more focused and achievement oriented and mine is more flexible and "let's try this." I am sure the OP will settle in nicely.

I am curious about announcing it to family 20 months ahead of time. Perhaps the family felt you were asking for their opinions, as that seems a pretty long advance notice about anything.
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Old 03-18-2014, 07:42 AM   #26
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Those would be the same people that told me "the way you eat your going to be fat at 40... and again at 50". So here I am at 50 still not fat Some people just want to P**s on your parade.
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Old 03-18-2014, 07:44 AM   #27
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I did not retire "to" anything. I just wanted out. End of story. I have been nothing but uncontrollably happy with the results.

All the stuff people said about becoming bored, wasting away, climbing the walls, not feeling useful or fulfilled etc, was just another example of other people not knowing what the hell they are talking about.
Lots of great replies here but this quick one is the one I most agree with.

For me, the best part of retiring was getting rid of the long, exhausting, annoying, and awful commute I was making. Despite having reduced it to 2 days a week for the last 17 months of a 7-year stretch of working part-time following 16 years of working full-time, it was not enough. It was the classic example of "addition by subtraction," in that my life improved by eliminating a negative, not adding a positive.

In those 7 years of working part-time, I had built up a nice set of hobbies and volunteer activities although working had caused many scheduling conflicts and somehwat limited how much I could partake in those activities. Retiring eliminated nearly all of those scheduling conflicts and allowed me to expand the personal life I had first taken back 7 years earlier when I first switched from working full-time to part-time.

I have an easy, everyday life now. It is so easy to do my everyday errands between 10 AM and 1 PM on weekdays when the number of workers in many businesses exceeds the number of customers, my kind of ratio LOL! Traffic and parking are never issues, either.

I like almost never using my alarm clock any more and being able to get my cherished nap every afternoon (like seraphim). Nobody has accused me of being lazy, not that I would ever care if they did.
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Old 03-18-2014, 09:19 AM   #28
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+1 I actually had our HR person tell me: "You'll get tired of skiing the Alps, wintering in Florida and sailing your boat in the summer...it sounds good, but you'll get tired of it". Uh, no, I haven't! Looking back on it, he sounded kind of idiotic...

People with no imagination! They can't envision another lifestyle.
I always thought it was strange that people thought I would get bored doing things I liked and having control over my life but didn't think I could get sick and tired of going to work and having to jump when somebody else blows the whistle?
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I like retirement because everyday is Saturday.
I thought I coined this phrase about 20 yrs ago.

The image evoked by it was how I deduced that I could,in fact, retire extremely early. After an assessment I determined that I was actually pretty satisfied with life overall. All I really wanted was pretty much the same basic life I already had but without having to go to work! Same car, same apartment, same furniture, same food, same friends... but no work. Saturday!

Everybody would try to yank my chain with "So, you a millionaire? You Donald Trump or something?" You gonna have the chauffeur drive you around in a limo?"

I didn't see retirement as requiring a butler and a limo. Just what I already had without the going-to-work part. That takes a lot less money.
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I always thought it was strange that people thought I would get bored doing things I liked and having control over my life but didn't think I could get sick and tired of going to work and having to jump when somebody else blows the whistle?
That always amazed me as well.
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Old 03-18-2014, 09:59 AM   #31
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Old 03-18-2014, 01:35 PM   #33
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My FIL retired at 42, MIL was SAHM. Someone made an offer that was too good to be true for his business and he grabbed it. Good thing as the bottom fell out of those businesses a few years later. He had a couple of tough years figuring out what he wanted to do. After the initial change, they loved their life.

My dad had a plan for post retirement and it went well. There's no one that can tell you what the right thing is except you.
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Old 03-18-2014, 01:59 PM   #34
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Am I just a lazy SOB?

"Everybody would try to yank my chain with "So, you a millionaire? You Donald Trump or something?" You gonna have the chauffeur drive you around in a limo?""

1. Yes.
2. Hell no. I have nicer hair.
3. No, I'm just going to have her stand by the car in that short skirted, tight fitting chauffeurs outfit.

That ought to shut them up...

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I didn't see retirement as requiring a butler and a limo. Just what I already had without the going-to-work part. That takes a lot less money.
That's about where we are with it. Just do whatever we (or separately) want to do that day. Y'know, like Saturday.

No script, no "Gee I gotta get this done today" because tomorrow will do just fine, or go out and play doing whatever is play for you. Or veg out in front of the TV if that's what you want to do that day. And yes, I've done that a few times too. Or take a trip to wherever if that's what you want to do.

I thought that's what retirement was supposed to be like. Isn't it?
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I once had a friend say this and for me it was so profound that I think about it often.

"We are not human beings. We are humans "doing".

I suppose it struck a chord with me because for so very many years, it was "do, do , do" from 5:00 a.m. until midnight day after day, year after year for over 25 years (children years).

Now I am enjoying being a human being again with the ability to choose what I want "to do" for the most part. Now when someone tells me "to do" something they can very easily do themselves, my response is "You can do it if you want". (in various tactful ways!)
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I did not retire "to" anything. I just wanted out. End of story. I have been nothing but uncontrollably happy with the results.

All the stuff people said about becoming bored, wasting away, climbing the walls, not feeling useful or fulfilled etc, was just another example of other people not knowing what the hell they are talking about.
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I always thought it was strange that people thought I would get bored doing things I liked and having control over my life but didn't think I could get sick and tired of going to work and having to jump when somebody else blows the whistle?
You must be talking to that guy in that Cadillac commercial. No doubt he keeps his minions working hard so he can afford the nice home, the fancy car, and get his arrogant ego stroked. N'est-Ce Pas??
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If you're a lazy SOB, then I'm totally jealous and wishing I was you (only 45 weeks to ER)...
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I know you have to retire "to" something but do you HAVE to take on a "jobby" to feel like your life is still fulfilling? Will I be asking myself "now what?" a year or 2 into ER?
If you have to retire to a "jobby" then you really are in the "do-do"
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