Since too much time had passed, the software wouldn't let me edit to add this too....
A significant advantage to living apart is that we have no reason to disagree about money. If he wants to buy something, it is none of my business, and vice versa. It's not like he is spending my money. Our money, bank accounts, credit, retirement investments, and everything else related to money is separate. Neither of us is benefitting financially from our relationship. Taking money out of things eliminates a tremendous amount of squabbling and power plays. It's quite refreshing. We try not to control each other in any way, actually, since we both much prefer just having fun and enjoying one another's company.
"You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore." - - - C. Columbus