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Old 02-19-2013, 10:21 AM   #1
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Big change coming for us

DW had her retirement luncheon yesterday; Friday's her last day. She's stressing about getting her replacement up to speed before she leaves.

I'm very proud of her and glad that she's able to do it at 56 yo; I er'd 6 yrs ago at 58.


But... I have to confess to a little bit of nervousness about what this radical change will mean for us. I have no reason to think it will be anything but all good, but it will certainly be different!
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Old 02-19-2013, 10:26 AM   #2
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DW had her retirement luncheon yesterday; Friday's her last day. She's stressing about getting her replacement up to speed before she leaves.
Very nice. She must have had enough good experiences with her employer to be concerned about not leaving them hanging out to dry with an inadequately trained replacement. I'm past the point about caring about that, personally!

Best of luck and enjoy your retirement together!
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That is fantastic! Congrats to your DW.

We had a fairly rough adjustment period with us both being home. Some of it was probably due to the fact that I traveled quite a bit for work so the new found togetherness took some time to adjust to.

Enjoy!
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DW had her retirement luncheon yesterday; Friday's her last day. She's stressing about getting her replacement up to speed before she leaves.

I'm very proud of her and glad that she's able to do it at 56 yo; I er'd 6 yrs ago at 58.


But... I have to confess to a little bit of nervousness about what this radical change will mean for us. I have no reason to think it will be anything but all good, but it will certainly be different!
1) Remind her that getting her replacement up to speed is not HER issue. Assuming mgmt knew the retirement was pending, it was their responsibility.

2) You are right. Different, and hopefully good. If you already have a good relationship it will be better.

ENJOY!!!!!!
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Old 02-19-2013, 10:31 AM   #5
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Putting on my Karnac hat, I predict that in no time concerns about training a replcement will fade. Other concerns may arise but those should pass forver.
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Old 02-19-2013, 10:54 AM   #6
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1)....... Assuming mgmt knew the retirement was pending, it was their responsibility.
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If it's a small family co, then I can understand her feelings. If it's a megacorp or gov't shop, then I say do your best until Friday then forget about it. People leave j@bs all the time, and megacorp don't stress over folks who they lay off/down size
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I am sure some folks adapt to being together more with ease, and we've all read stories of others who have serious trouble with 'honey, I'm home - for good!' I know one couple, and their are undoubtedly others, who basically lived separate lives - but it worked for them.

You can make it work, there are probably lots of good articles on the topic, it's a common concern...here's two short ones. Best of luck...

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"Honey, I'm Home!" - For Good: The Transition to Retirement, HYG-5159-96

We wish you both all the best!

And I applaud your DW for her efforts to ease the transition to a successor at her soon to be former employer, it's the decent thing to do no matter what the situation (your conscience is far more important in the long run than "getting even" with an employer, even a bad one). Folks who recommend otherwise when they obviously can't know the specific situation are (I'll be kind and say) being arbitrary...
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She's stressing about getting her replacement up to speed before she leaves.
Congratulations!

One thing I have never understood is caring about a replacement, or the "Should I give only one year notice, or five years?" debate. Most of the time I believe this is inflation of self-worth, but I am sure there are instances where this is not the case.

Consider the case of a manager who has an employee (or employees) that cannot be replaced. Isn't that kindof hanging it out there?

I suppose there are some employers that do care about their employees, but I never had the privilege of w*rking for any of them.

Anyway, I am wishing you both a nice retirement.
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Everyone is replacible, don't worry about what your employer will do when you are gone. They will be fine without you.
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Congratulations on the dual ERs ! Before you know it you'll find a newfound pace for your relationship. I wish you all the best. And kudos to your wife for being a model employee !
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Congratulations on the dual ERs ! Before you know it you'll find a newfound pace for your relationship. I wish you all the best. And kudos to your wife for being a model employee !
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Congrats, in my mind ER doesn't truely begin until both spouses are retired.
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Old 02-22-2013, 09:35 AM   #14
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Thanks for the comments & kind words. Today's the day!
As she went out the door we exchanged a look ---"wow".

She slept poorly last night, thinking about loose ends she needs/wants to deal with today. She's just that type. She rose from a mostly clerical position to handling arcane technical & financial stuff that no-one else understands, & wants to make sure her replacement is not left out to sea.

As I said, I'm proud of her.

Onward!
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