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Old 02-03-2012, 12:10 PM   #21
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Now that I am 63 less people see it as a big deal.
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Old 02-03-2012, 12:57 PM   #22
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I used to be a little uneasy about telling casual acquaintances I was retired. But that wore off after about 6 months into ER. I don't go into details as to how I managed to achieve my ER, as the subject often changes which is fine by me.

In my 10 years of volunteer work with some local school Scrabble clubs, two of the teacher/coaches have taken an ER in the 3 years I have been ERed, so we have had the chance to share our ER stories when we have met up or chatted. Before they ERed, they were jealous of me. Now the other teacher/coaches are jealous of them and me LOL!
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Old 02-03-2012, 12:58 PM   #23
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Just say: We worked our asses off for 30 years and scrimped and saved, and now I don't have to go to work..great huh?"
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Old 02-03-2012, 02:30 PM   #24
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I generally give a context-specific answer. "Private investment manager for a family office" is as close to a job as I have, in terms of where my income comes from.

When closing my last account at GigaBank last week, the Vice President of Account Services (one step up from a teller) kept pushing back with options to reduce fees, but when she asked what my job was and if my employer could do direct deposits, I pretty much ended things by simply saying "I'm unemployed."

Pick whatever answer you like to continue or kill the conversation, as appropriate. :-)
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Old 02-03-2012, 03:22 PM   #25
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I feel the discomfort with "I'm retired" too. I think age plays a big role in the difficulty, if you are in your early 50's or younger, and don't look your age. I equate this with what housewives (or husbands) have had to go through in their lives when asked - where do you work?

I also feel that my DW is uncomfortable with telling work associates that her husband is "retired".

I love the "self employed financial manager for a private client" line!
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Why do you not want to answer, "I'm a retired nurse." Simple, clear, and truthful, and I think that would answer any questions. These days, nobody is jealous when you say something like that, because in the back of their minds they are thinking that maybe you are really unemployed and not wanting to admit it.

I do this and say, "I'm a retired oceanographer", and usually the next question is, "Where did you work?" I tell them, and the conversation drifts into other areas. Never a problem for me.
Thanks. I've been saying I am/was an Engineer or Plant Manager. Like your approach better.

I don't like the euphemistic answers as much, too cutesy. YMMV
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Old 02-03-2012, 04:30 PM   #27
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For the first 2 years, when I'm was asked, I said I was on sabbatical, now into the 3rd yr its on hiatus.
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I've never had any hesitation in telling folks that I am a retired engineer. I often meet new folks at the Y, and sometimes while chatting for the 2nd or 3rd occasion, I can see them wondering what I am doing in the middle of the day in the middle of the week at the Y, so I will volunteer the information, in case they are embarrassed to ask for fear of hearing that I lost my job or something.

In 2 years I've never felt any animosity or jealousy.
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People are rarely jealous of ERs, unless they are rich enough to lead very obviously posh lives.

Otherwise, they just think that the relatively young non-working person is some kind of loser.

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Hi Ha, your avatar has changed dramatically. I'm wondering what the story is there.
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Hi Ha, your avatar has changed dramatically. I'm wondering what the story is there.
Did you miss the memo about "Change-Your-Avatar Week"?

Oh that's right. We didn't send it to you because your avatar/painting is so strikingly beautiful and unusual, that we didn't want you to change it.
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Well, I must be loosing it. I did look up change-your-avatar week and did find a few links: Change Your Avatar Week! (giveaway included) - BattleForge Forum

But wrong forum. However, I noticed that you changed yours too W2R. From a hot chick to a hot kitten. Some hidden meaning there?
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Did you miss the memo about "Change-Your-Avatar Week"?

Oh that's right. We didn't send it to you because your avatar/painting is so strikingly beautiful and unusual, that we didn't want you to change it.
All of the changes of avatar's gave me the intellectual curiousity, the figure out the process of having one. And since I was watching an episode of Cannon at the time....
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Well, I must be loosing it. I did look up change-your-avatar week and did find a few links: Change Your Avatar Week! (giveaway included) - BattleForge Forum

But wrong forum. However, I noticed that you changed yours too W2R. From a hot chick to a hot kitten. Some hidden meaning there?
Maybe we just like the same avatars. Nope, no hidden meaning. I just thought this kitten was so adorable and huggable, and I wanted to switch my avatar for a while.

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All of the changes of avatar's gave me the intellectual curiousity, the figure out the process of having one. And since I was watching an episode of Cannon at the time....
Excellent! You now have your very own avatar too.
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Hi Ha, your avatar has changed dramatically. I'm wondering what the story is there.
I decided to go straight.
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I decided to go straight.
I'm curious who's face that is (showing my ignorance here, but what else is new). Doesn't look like Hoover.
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I'm curious who's face that is (showing my ignorance here, but what else is new). Doesn't look like Hoover.
That is Carlos Gardel, the King of Argentine Tango singers. He died in a plane crash in his mid-forties.

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Otherwise, they just think that the relatively young non-working person is some kind of loser.

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Previously when asked what I do in retirement, I would just say I'm good at doing nothing. No one inquires anymore. Now days some of my friends refer to me as 'easy money'. Not sure about the money part but I am easy.
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People are rarely jealous of ERs, unless they are rich enough to lead very obviously posh lives.

Otherwise, they just think that the relatively young non-working person is some kind of loser.

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+1 When I first retired at 56 I would guess 70-80% of people would be glad for me (some a bit envious but not at all hostile). Others would seem a little uncomfortable and I generally felt they disapproved from a "you should work at your age" point of view. I had never associated the term loser with that approbation but I think that is probably how they saw me. I think that might be more common in a place like DC with a high proportion of strivers many of whose self worth is tied to their their jobs.
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